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Playing the dating Game..............how do you play?
by KateWild 23 Replies latest social relationships
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EdenOne
Men are usually bad at guessing what a woman wants. Most men won't do any decisive move because they have no idea how the woman will react, so they protect themselves from shooting their feet. However, if the woman drops hints, men are usually quick to understand and make decisions based on those... depends if you want to lead the process or let the man imagine he's leading it ...
Eden
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KateWild
bigmac, I am not that kind of girl. If I want plenty of sex I can get it from POF from married men, but nice guys are on there too. I have met a few. Kate xx
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KateWild
depends if you want to lead the process or let the man imagine he's leading it ...-Eden
Men can take hints, it's a dating site after all, it's all in the profile they can see what you want, but it doesn't stop the toy boys from trying it on lol!!!!! Kate xx
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Dis-Member
Evolution teaches that men are born to try it on. So does creation for that matter, lol
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KateWild
In the last 24 hrs I have had 2 practicing Muslims try it on, what hypocrites, I know I am unclean to them, flamimng cheek!!!!!. I will date a former Muslim or non practising, not quite sure if men leave or not, but I think they can.
Kate xx
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
"Does a man always have to make the first move?"
That's kinda where the online dating differs from real world contact. Although the guy is expected to make the first move in real world situations, the woman can send plenty of signals beforehand to indicate his chances of success. Online is different. I don't have the experience to have much input on the subject, but I would think that if a woman only posted her profile and sat back waiting for the right person to contact her, or just chatted until a guy asked her to meet, she might be missing out on some great opportunities.
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JWdaughter
Kate, with a name like Katewild, they may get the wrong impression at the get go. Maybe thats the puritanical American in me talking:) But men see what they want to.
When it is right, I don't know that 'making a move' will really be an issue. It will happen if they are interested in seeing you. If they aren't confident enough to ask you-do you really want to bother? (Ok, I'm old fashioned that way). Just go on your dates, don't overthink it, and enjoy them (or not) for what they are. If they call again,then you can consider if you care to meet them again.
From everything I am reading that you let us know about-I would take it slow and very easy. Finding a man should not be your priority right now (sorry, that is bossy of me). Focus on the parts of your life that are critical and I bet the right man is going to show up in any case. You are still young, fun, and have a lot to offer. Once you feel more stable and established, YOU will be a more desirable partner to the kind of man that I imagine you would hope to find. They say you need to be the kind of person you want to meet.
I wish you joy in however you step forward. Personally, I think coffee is a nice, unthreatening way to meet someone and just keep it at that in your head.That is all that it is about. Not sex or a relationship. The guys with just sex in mind should be dismissed probably before starbucks is even an option. So should the desperate ones of all sorts. You have antennae. Use them wisely. Just do things that are fun for you and hang around with people that you enjoy on that basis. Friends will try to set you up and often with folks that they think you have something in common with. Choose your friends wisely and good things are likely to result in many areas of your life.
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Band on the Run
I admire women who are able to make the first move. It appears to be generational. When I was younger, I felt stripped of power. Now I talk with male friends and I realize how difficult it is to make the first move. If someone my age ever made the first move, it would be the last move. Men did not like it. The old rules seem so silly.
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KateWild
That's kinda where the online dating differs from real world contact. she might be missing out on some great opportunities. - billy
This day and age are different, but the missing opportunities point is a good one, I might take that on board and start actively searching for a guy. Only chatting to guys who approach me is seriously limiting my pool, ther are plenty of fish you see.
Kate xx