Officially parting ways : (

by Batman89 21 Replies latest jw friends

  • Batman89
    Batman89

    Some of you might remember my first post on here about my dilemma of whether or not to remain in a relationship with my JW girlfriend after learning TTATT http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/experiences/278710/1/Im-new-and-need-help#.U-kltPldVyQ

    While we were taking a break, well it turned out to be not very much of a break because of our still strong feeling for each other (we eventually went from talking every few weeks to once a week and then to everyday again) and things started to get complicated

    Well last night we officially decided that it would be best for the both of us to at least part ways for now and end things. I knew this day was coming but I was never really prepared for it.

    I have never been so torn about something in my entire life as I have for these past few months. On the one hand I have this girl that I love whom I deeply respect and care for who is amazing and incredibly supportive who was willing to stick by my side(even when I slowed down spiritually and stopped field service all together) and always made me feel appreciated and wanted, I tried to rationalize a million differnt times of somehow trying to make everything work to be with her. But on the other hand I know 100% that the JW religon is false and religon itself is false and a way of mind control for the masses and that the journey I am on for wealth, personal development and real spiritual enlightenment has no room for religon in it.

    Ultimately I want to do what is fair for the both of us because even though I know TTATT I would never try to push it on her and respect her wish to remain a JW and I know she would never be able to emotionally and mentally handle the shunning that would be involved in leaving the organization.

    Although im mostly free now from this religion and I have goals and dreams that excite me, letting her go makes me litterly feel sick to my stomach. All I keep replaying in my mind is her last words to me as she was tearing up:"Goodbye Batman"(my nickname)

    In the end we want each other to be truly happy and she told me that even if I decide to leave the organization that she'll still support me and I told her if she found a great JW hushand that was a good "spiritual head" I would support her as well

    For me now its all about figuring out the next chapter in my life and direction I want to take it now that im out of religion. Im fortunate that my parents also know TTATT and are free as well and we can support each other as well.

    Thanks for reading this any support/advice will be be appreciated

  • baltar447
    baltar447

    Honestly you're far better off. I know it hurts right now, but it's far better to hurt now than to have so much regret and heartache later.

  • ABibleStudent
    ABibleStudent

    Live your life free of the Watchtower, Batman89! Move on with you life, make new non-JW friends, and fulfill your dreams and not an Organization's goals.

    I felt weeks of gut-wrenching emotions too when my former friend, who is a "Spiritually Strong" (i.e., non-thinking) JW, decided to not associate with me because I did not believe Watchtower doctrines. It sucks! Working out at the gym, spending time with friends, and learning new things helped me.

    Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

    Robert

  • skeeter1
    skeeter1

    I know you will find a girl who is worthy of you.

  • cantleave
    cantleave

    Sorry that this has happened, but there is no compromise with a JW. This hurts but will be for the best in the long run.

  • Batman89
    Batman89

    thanks lets hope

  • jgnat
    jgnat

    A wise move, I think. Grieve for what could have been. And then.

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    You can love people and do what's best for all concerned, even if that means parting. It hurts, but you know how to do the right thing. Strength to you.

  • NAVYTOWN
    NAVYTOWN

    The breakup was destined to happen sooner or later. Eventually she would have determined that you were 'bad association' and stopped all communication with you. There was really no chance that the two of you would remain friends long-term. Better to break it off now than after you got married and maybe had children. Now you can build a fulfilling life apart from any JW influence. And she can find a dedicated JW man to be with. Everybody comes out a winner in the end. Hang in there and start hanging out with non-JW friends. Best wishes!!

  • Mum
    Mum

    I'm sorry for what you're going through, but you have spared her and yourself and any children you might have had untold suffering. It's much better to split up before you have children.

    Best wishes for a happy future.

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