Not invited to my nephews wedding

outforever

Knew that this would be the case - so not surprised. Quite happy to not go - as I would not like to see my mother / or my big sister at all. This nephew is my small sisters son - my small sister and myself are very close - she does not go to the meetings anymore for quite a while now, her eyes have been opened. I remembered long ago when I found out about all the nonsense that was being taught and spoke to my small sister - she used to listen but she kept on rolling her eyes: now it is different: she is competley out! read c/c and all the info on exjw.net: thank goodness.

It has been 10 or so years that I am out: and am quite happy not to go: could not step into the kingdom hall at all:

Their invite to the guests states: no smoking (as my nephews girlfriend has worldly family members that are coming and who smoke) no alcohol (as they drink like fishers) let me tell you 99.9% of jw are going to be disappointed about this; they are the worst drinkers. No throwing of rice etc, no pants for women (can you belive that) - too scared that the family members will come in tight jeans!! and taint the kingdom hall.

steve2

Has your nephew invited his mother, your little sister?

Phizzy

It used to annoy me a bit in the past that we were never given the chance to refuse invites, which we surely would have done.

But it has given us the freedom to not invite any party-pooper JW relatives to any of our family events, so there is an upside.

bigmac

i wasnt invited to any of my kids weddings---i only found out after the events.

but my older son's 1st --jw--marriage failed. he was d/f'd---and married his lady last year--this time i was invited---a weekend long bash that was. however--his jw mum wasnt there---or his siblings. i cant begin to imagine what his brides family and friends made of that.

steve2

Bigmac, I couldn't begin to imagine what it would be like to not receive invites from your children to their weddings. Still, what a lovely surprise to be invited to your oldest son's 2nd wedding.

bigmac

@ steve 2. all part of the religious hatred called shunning. i got hardened to it many years ago.

my daughter--43 this month--lives 3 miles from me--i can see her place from mine. she has 4 daughters of her own. oldest is 17. ive never met them.

outforever

steve2 - yes my sister is going - she has to as she is the mom - but she did not have any say in her son's marriage arrangements - his girlfriend did all that - (so we know who wears the pants) which is true of most jw's its the wife behind all the scens (well most of the time) yes as bigmac says one get hardened to it all.

Even when I see my big sister and mom - (who lives down the road) in the supermarket - I am the one now who turns my head aways for just looks over their head. Cannot at this stage of my life be concerned to look at them in the face and they get to look away. Done with that! they are invisiable to me.

losingit

I hate these stories of shunning. It always breaks my heart. How can family be so cold? It hurts me when former friends do it. Thank God I have no family in! I'd b devastated about losing them! It was just the possibility of my girls shunning me when thsy got older that really helped me to let go of the cult and its members.

cultBgone

bigmac, THIS should be pointed out to your local news journalist looking for a Wow story:

all part of the religious hatred called shunning. i got hardened to it many years ago.

my daughter--43 this month--lives 3 miles from me--i can see her place from mine. she has 4 daughters of her own. oldest is 17. ive never met them.

Just because we all say That's The Way They Are doesn't make it RIGHT. It's morally (and should be legally) unconscionable to raise children to hate/shun their parent.

SHAME on any Witnesses who CHOOSE to practice SHUNNING.

SHUNNING is a personal HATE crime and should be ILLEGAL.

losingit

I need to edit-- to me my friends in the cong were family, then I demoted them to friends, now theyre noone. So odd.

Not invited to my nephews wedding

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