Sadly, EX-JW's are befuddled when they leave. It takes so many years to sort out what happened and to make sense of it in a rational way--
the former member usually lapses into introverted silence.
Only a few are angry enough to become useful exponents of whistleblowing.
Among the whistleblowers the least effective are the emotional ones who bait JW's and heap loud abuse.
I know, I was one for a long time.
Being ineffective is pointless, and it really doesn't appease the sense of violation or anger.
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Eventually, I saw it was better NOT to be the APOSTATE demon the JW's expected to see when they looked at me.
What if I settled in and had a normal, happy, liberated existence by way of refuting their expectations?
That seemed more prudent.
I started realizing you can't win a theology argument EVER with a JW.
This is not because they can't be proved wrong---no, far from it.
It is because it doesn't do a thing to convince them there is something wrong with their religious cult. It is because
cognitive dissonance REAFFIRMS the stranglehold once they are challenged!
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Like an alcoholic, a JW has to hit rock bottom by having the fake "love among themselves" suddenly fracture into lies before their very eyes.
They have to see for themselves how phony it all is first hand. No description by others will even scratch the surface.
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Among the people who finally leave, do research, become rational, begin seeing there is more to life (and the Bible) than they had suspected . . .
well--that's when an EX-JW is poised to be really effective.
Eventually, if not already--there will be more EX-JW's than current and active ones.
I only wish the former members could reach the state of health and awareness to be better spokespersons.
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Losing your family and (fake) friends isn't easy.
There has to be SOMEPLACE for them to go for refuge, to lick their wounds and heal.
If we create a hostile enviornment--they will surely either slink back to the Kingdom Hall or jump out of the frying pan into another one.
Worst still, by disconnecting from the interior emotional bond with a celestial Santa Claus--Ex-JW's often become bitter atheists who want
to slash your numinous tires and paper the hopes and dreams of heaven with toilet paper.
Once you discover there is no "there" there---you realize one day you will die--and that's all there is to life.
The real trick is in getting busy building the best and most productive, charitable life you possibly can.
You only get out of this world what you put into it---if you are lucky.
