A fourth generation JW on the way

by Xanthippe 11 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse

  • Xanthippe
    Xanthippe

    To my nephew,

    Your other aunt phoned my non-JW cousin, so I know your wife is expecting a baby in the new year. Congratulations! I am so happy for you. New life is such a precious gift but please don't raise your child in this religion that refuses to report child abuse to the authorities. You know that this is illegal and immoral. Please don't expose your child to these people.

    Also please allow your son or daughter to go to university because any child of yours will be very intelligent. I have only seen you once, at your Grandma's funeral, since you were about nine or ten but I remember how clever you were. Don't condemn your child to be ignorant and unqualified, having to clean toilets or windows for a pittance.

    It is my greatest wish that you find the courage to research the religion you were raised in even as you encourage people out in field service to do. I am here for you. If you want to leave this religion I can help and so can your cousin, my daughter, who you can get to know. There are hundreds of people on this forum who would also love to help you and we can show you all the information that is available so you can be sure you are not being fooled.

    If you are reading this then you know the significance of today so please pm me.

    All my love

    Your Aunt

  • Listener
    Listener

    Sorry, but there is no way I would send this letter, there is too much bible bashing and it is not going to reach out to a JW.

  • Xanthippe
    Xanthippe

    This is an open letter only on this forum intended for a person who has already started to research their religion because they are dissatisfied with it. If anyone would like to add their reassurance to my nephew that he will receive help on this forum, if he is in fact here, then please do so.

  • Listener
    Listener

    Xanthippe, I didn't pick up on that, sorry.

    I hope that he is here and that he takes your advice. Having children is a very important time to reflect on what one hopes and plans for that child. Certainly the JW religion restricts many things that we may otherwise aim for on behalf of our children.

    I know of some JW families that are not preventing their children from higher education but when the father is in a prominent position they are not likely afforded this opportunity. The father can lose his position if he allows his children to recieve higher education.

    I don't know if your nephew does hold any positions in the religion and if he does, or may in the future, he should consider how much time this will take away from enjoying a full family life. My father was an elder and we saw so little of him, he was usually sitting in his office and working on various JW duties, including study, public talk presentations and various other responsibilities. We had very little fun times, just doing things together.

    We weren't allowed to do any out of school activities like sport and it was probably just as well as he would not have had the time to drive us around let alone watch us.

    It is worth the time to investigate the religion, both its past and its beliefs as he now has the responsibility of teaching his own child.

  • MissFit
    MissFit

    To Nephew X: if you are reading this: Welcome.

    Please if you are having any doubts at all I implore you to investigate. This site will give you access to a lot of information for you to research.

    Congratulations on your impending fatherhood.

    I wish I had acted on my doubts and would have had access to this site 26 years ago before my children were born. I yo-yoed back and forth during their childbood.

    I was in long enough to instill fear of destruction and displeasing Jehovah.

    My husband was not a JW. My son learned that God would kill his father for not believing in him. How could I do that to him?

    I hope that when you start teaching your child, you will be sure of what you believe.

    It is so hard to undo the damage.

  • bigmac
    bigmac

    i'm delighted to say my d/f son and his never-a-dub wife are expecting their first together. this will be my first non-born-in grandchild---ive got 7 others--5th gen born ins.

    at last i will be able to see this one regularly. ive only ever met 2 of the others---once---7 years ago. 4 live less than a mile away. ( only ever seen 2 of them--from a distance )

  • cantleave
    cantleave

    To Xanhippie's Nephew - Please break the chain of cult abuse, don't subject your precious child to the horrible existence of being raised a JW.

  • DesirousOfChange
    DesirousOfChange

    I wish I had acted on my doubts and would have had access to this site 26 years ago before my children were born. I yo-yoed back and forth during their childbood.

    I would say the exact thing -- except the yo-yoing back and forth -- I was convinced "hook, line, & sinker". I was a devout believer sucker. Thankfully my children are all fully awakened.

    Doc

  • cha ching
    cha ching

    We have just spent the weekend with family. Family that we never got the chance to know because "other things were more important."

    Things like: Building K Halls for an organization, that later had no problem boot kicking us out because we told the truth, stuck up for victims of child abuse.

    Things like: Going to elder's meetings to 'solve everyone else's problems except our own', for people that now will turn their backs on us because we will not compromise and lie about this organization's beginnings. We never had the chance to know all the lies in the name of 'new light' they have told over the decades until modern technology made it possible. (How else can you find all the old books? Tho we actually did buy many of them "just to make sure were not being tricked by apostates." )

    Things like: Making it home to our home congregation to make sure 'the flock was taken care of', we couldn't spend the WHOLE weekend away. Why not spend the time with your "worldly family." (Do you see? nothing besides the organization is worth it)

    Things like: Going out in service, attending meetings, when really, how many people did we talk to? Hmmm? How many people did we realllllly help"? Hours and hours and miles and miles wasted circling blocks, writing "Not at Homes" down... We could have been bonding with our children, creating memories.

    Things like: Going to meetings, assemblies, conventions, volunteering for so many pointless things. Really, as I look back over 50 years of 'servitude' I see that topics, themes of assemblies merely repeat, repeat, repeat... So why do we need to hear them alllll the time? It was like a hamster wheel. So busy you never have time to live. To love. To enjoy life. All is put off for the hope of "the future."

    The sad thing is, when you look into those old books, hear those old talks, investigate the past, you realize that this organization has been doing this for years. Promising that the 'end is near,' 'we are the chosen ones,' 'listen to us.'

    To me, raised as a person who should tell the truth, live a good, righteous life like Jesus, be honest, care for people, care for children... when you see behind 'the curtain,' experience the cold, chilling realities of WT lawyers, there is no other choice but to stand up for what is right. How can I honestly say, "God is with them." If God or Jesus would not allow this trickery, this abuse of children, why should the "faithful" slave?

    Did Jesus quote law to excuse his "not helping the man beside the road?" No, exactly the opposite. WT lawyers quote state law so easily, so coldly, "We are not required to report it in this state," that how can they realllllllly call themselves 'disciples of Christ?'

    What happened when there was controversy of 'eating grain on the Sabbath' between the Phariseees and Jesus disciples? Did Jesus allow them to just quote Hebrew law? No.

    When lawyers quote the "we need two witnesses" rule when confronted with child abuse, for not reporting a crime to the police, would that be like JESUS or the Pharisees?

    Please investigate what is happening, just like you tell other people to do. I have an Awake magazine that makes my blood boil when I read it... It tells other people, of other religions to 'test out' to 'investigate' to 'not drink water with one drop of poison'... the hypocrisy of disfellowshipping someone for doing exactly what you tell others to do is sad.

    If I had read the Finished Mystery book when young, I never would have joined. It is very crazy. If you had read the FM book, not knowing what it was, you really would think it is loony, and if someone asked you to join this person in their beliefs, you really would run away.

    I have to ask, if TRUTH is TRUTH, why can't it stand up to scrutiny? Why are you afraid of examining 'TRUTH'?

  • JWdaughter
    JWdaughter

    For the nephew:

    You have family that loves you now and will love you if you leave the JWs and the WTBTS. You have other family that will reject you if you leave. You are smart enough to measure the value of that kind of love. Think about the kind of parent that you want to be and make the hard decisions now, while you are young and you haven't twisted anyone elses future yet. Decide to truly love, unconditionally love. Your aunt and your cousin will support and love you either way, but unfortunately, are only allowed to be around you conditionally. That is a sad situation to bring a child into deliberately.

    There are a lot of people that will offer support and encouragement, churches and community and faith groups that do not mock faith or God. The world is just like a kingdom hall in one way. It is good, bad, ugly, flawed, beautiful, challenging. . . .lots of good and bad and indifferent. You will be dealing with individual people for the rest of your life whether you are in or out of the organization. The thing is, most of "the world" is aware of its imperfection. JWs think they are "it, baby". They are just as flawed, but more in denial about it than any group of people I have ever known. They give lip service to being imperfect human beings, but find that their flaws are somehow more righteous than that of any other religion or group. That is a really obnoxious trait and JWs can't see that in themselves.

    My best to you and your little one. Babies are truly a blessing from God and you will have a different view of the universe once yours is born.

    M.

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