Thank you everyone for your thoughts and experiences.
Dear nephew if you are lurking here I will be here whenever you need me. If you've been on here for a while you will know that there are thousands of ex-JWs who understand exactly how your life has been. If you contact me it will be completely confidential because I know your parents will never leave. I would never risk anything that could hurt you.
I have your telephone number you know. My dad gave it to me. After Grandma died he wanted me to phone your mum about something but I said there's not much point and he demanded to know why and the whole sorry story came out. The whole JW thing went over his head I'm afraid. He begged me to phone your mum and try and straighten it out. He said he had phoned her and would I get in contact, do it for my sake he said. So I did, she put the phone down on me. I didn't phone Grandad back, didn't want to upset him. Two days later he died so the last thing he tried to do in his life was bring his family together.
So even though I have your parents' telephone number and also yours I have never bothered any of you, never tried to preach at you about your religion. It is entirely up to you. Have a wonderful life, enjoy your lovely baby, they grow so fast.
xx