Help, my son misses the hall... (page 2)

Dutchie

Sorry, Termite, I was trying to read your post, answer your post and peel potatoes, all at the same time. So I only read it hurriedly. Disregard my advice! Sorry. I'm going back now to read the whole post, thoroughly.

termite 35

Thi chi;I agree totally;I just don't feel I want to go with him!He's a really thoughtful boy and I like the level of communication we have,I just wish we could do all this when i'm a bit less anti ORGANISED religion...X

Anglise;No, she's not, she's a living saint,who works for charities in the 3rd world- and a really funny, talented woman.She's belongs to a christian fellowship type of church which is about 50 feet from our house!

gumby

Topic: Help, my son misses the hall...
Thanks for the comments Dutchie;but it's not the hall he wants to go back to

I'm confused!

IslandWoman

Termite,

I sympathize with your situation. My son misses his best friend.

IMO, no religion is free of wrongdoing or wrong teachings. The JWs is where he was raised, he feels comfortable, he fits in there. But unlike your son mine is 15 years old. He never made friends outside of the KH. He knows he can go back and we will help him to go back if that's what he really wants. His older sister will probably occasionally attend a meeting with him just so that he does not feel all alone.

It has been hard on him. We left voluntarily, he had to leave with us.
If he decides to go back though he does know that he will not be allowed to be baptized until he turns 18!

Just wanted to share our experience.

Take Care,
IW

Dutchie

Sorry Gumby, I was confused too! I confessed to that in a previous post. Thanks a lot for bringing it up again. Love, Dutchie

termite 35

Ballistic;I thought the world cup would do the trick...!!!

dannybear ; I did just what your wife did and left at 14;But I do feel weird 'leaving' him somewhere..i'll have to combine it with friends going as Valis suggested I think-what a lovely thought-that he's spreading his wings a little!I had'nt thought of it in such a lovely way ,you optomist(sp?!-it's late...!) you!

Dutchie;don't worry!I know wwhat it's like; just keep that plate on your head moving-ok?!

gumby

Quote: As time goes on the memories will fade and a year from now I bet you won't be able to drag him back to the hall!

I agree with Dutchie on this one. My sister has two boys, and 6 or7 years ago when she was a dub then left.....the boys were yearning for things like...what about the New System, the bears with the lambs etc? They acted as thought they too missed the hall.

Now......you couldn't talk them into going.They are nice non "worldly boys" still!....despite not being a dub.

termite 35

Dutchie; I meant plate on stick-doh!You know what I was trying to say!

Island Woman-wow, what a situation to be in;that must be hard on him;My girls have left friends behind too, but although we did'nt get invited out much I was still good enough to take jw kids out on trips!we used to have them with us and they miss them-but always had seperate lives-school and hall, so they're ok in that sense.Does your son still feel it's 'the truth'?I hope he dos'nt get baptised-Perhaps when he goes to college he'll feel a little less ...it's the feeling responsible that i hate so much..mind you, I went to sunday school as a child and never felt as powerfully about it as our boys do..It must be the ONLY ONE TRUE RELIGION WILL BE SAVED message...perhaps that's what needs researching as a condition before baptism for him?XXXX

termite 35

Thanks all!you're brilliant!!!

I'd better go;hubby's tutting...!!!!!

Ballistic; when are you about?Let's get that drink...

AuntieJane

Hi Termite, I've raised 3 kids; none of us ever JW, all belong to the same faith. I had the opportunity to be a leader in a Bible study this year for prospective members. Every one of them stated they grew up w/o any religion and always had a desire to "be like the other kids" who attended church. That was something I'd never heard anyone say. I'd never thought of kids feeling that way.
I agree w. others here that it certainly is not going to hurt him, esp. if you investigate it a bit and feel comfortable about it. And if I were in your position (I don't know his age)...I would bring him myself at least the first time.
Just my thoughts.

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