by teenyuck 11 Replies latest jw friends
I feel for you. When my family's oddities get me in a position like this, I try to figure out what would be the least painful for me. I take it as a measure of growth when I can figure out what would be best for me, separated from what I feel obligated to do.
You're a good, caring person either way or you wouldn't agonize. My thoughts are with you.
Jewel
Thanks for the insight evryone.
I discussed this with my husband (who met Dick for the first time at my Dad's funeral) and he said what you all did.
I did not know the man. He possibly molested all 4 daughters.
I have very mixed feelings about my aunts and my mother. My oldest aunt is 1 year younger than my Mom, so she was 11 when Jane left. She has denied he ever touched them.
I decided last evening that I will not drive to Chicago. I would have to stand around for hours at a wake and then attend a lunch the next day. All to show support to my aunts. (I had major back surgery last year and am still in PT to strenghten my back) When I blew out my back I did not get one phone call from them.
The way my mother has tried to deny Jane's culpability in all of this has always angered me. She continually said "Jane did the best she could." I have always pointed out that any mother who would abandon 4 young girls is scum to me. I have nothing but contempt for Jane and her claims of being one of the 144,000.
Since I never knew Dick, I only felt anger when I saw him at my Dad's funeral. He was old, 89, however, I wanted to confront him and ask how he could do that to his daughters. My husband persuaded me not to in the interest of my Dad's relatives.
Since I have a very weak relationship with all of them, it does not make sense to go. I can stay home, spend time with my overworked husband and relax.
Thanks for the input and objective opinions. It helps to have someone not involved in the situation have you look at all sides.
I also appreciate the opportunity to finally get this out of my system.
