my girlfriend is cheating on me! what should i do? (page 2)

enrique

thank you soo much for your time and advice. you actually made me think. i feel a little better, b/c i didnt get any rest since 2 nights ago. i've been thinking about this. giving serious thoughts on what i should do. but u gave me a different route to look at. i am very grateful for your assistence. goodbye and take care of yourself.

hotkitten67

If she loves you , then I dont think that she would be cheating on you like this. Or she dosent know to the full how you feel about her and she is very insecure. Tell her that you know and see if she can give you a good reason as to why she is doing this.

Celia

speaking from experience.... ahem...
a woman in love will not even have thoughts about cheating her boyfriend, lover, man...
a woman who goes astray is not in love anymore, she discovered things in you that she can't live with anymore...
so, she's looking around for other opportunities...
she's not ready to dump you yet, because she has not found the next guy...
but, eventually, she will

neyank

If she is cheating on you, she is showing that she does not want to be your girl.

Meaning: she doesn't want an exclusive relationship with you.

Be grateful that you found out within the first year.
Now you can go on and meet someone else.

If you and her decide to stay together, can you truthfully trust her again?
Once the trust is gone, the relationship is over.

Just my 2 cents worth.

neyank

enrique

i thank every1 for avising me in what i should do and what they would do!but i'm soo happy to announce (whether u guys care or not lol) she hasnt cheated on me! i'm sooo happy.....i took most of the advise that was givin to me! and i found out the truth! we talked and she was about to go and cheat on me but decided it was wrong.......whether or not u guys think it's true i dont know? but i know for a fact it's true! it was just one of those moments where u can tell if the other person is telling the truth.....this was that moment! i'm soooo happy!!!!!!!! :oD :);) thanx to everyone for tryin to help solve my problem! bye............(until next time i need help!;) )

Incense_and_Peppermints

if she's cheating on you, she will just lie to you. first love is hard, and i don't want to make light of your pain, because it must hurt terribly. but you should indeed ask her straight out and you will know by her demeanor if she is lying to you or not. i'm sorry that this is happening to you. but do you want her if she is doing this to you? i'm sure there's other girls out there who deserve your trust and love.

Incense_and_Peppermints

i see your problem got resolved. i'm glad. my apologies for not reading the whole thread first...

LB

enrique I'm glad it is working out. Just keep your eyes open. It's your first love and that sometimes can make you blinder than any other time in your life. If things continue to check out then it's fantastic. I had my eyes closed with #1 and regretted it for a long time.

Never Squat With Yer Spurs On

bluesapphire

Hi Enrique:

A cheater once will always be a cheater. I knew my ex cheated on me for 10 years! The night before we got married he cheated. Sometimes he didn't even bother to hide it.

It's no way to live. I remember the pain in my stomach and my chest. He was my first love too. We were married and had three little girls. I was a very loyal wife to him. Good looking too. Nice body. Always nice to him. Gave him everything he wanted in bed. Still he cheated. What was he looking for in other women that he couldn't have from me? I will never know.

I am only telling you this because I hope to spare you the pain and the wasted years of this kind of life. It damages your self esteem to the point where you would rather die than face the reality again. Sometimes girls would call him up in the middle of the night and brazenly ask for him. And he would tell me that he didn't know who they were. And I would believe him. Like an idiot. Why? Because the pain was too much.

Hun, don't take your life on that awful course. You know what happened to me? I ended up becoming JW! Yeah, my whole JW experience was because I was so vulnerable, so pathetically insecure.

YOu can't go back after you've wasted that kind of effort and time on a relationship. All the time and effort you devote to a cheater who doesn't deserve you will just be wasted.

So find out if it's true ... and if it is DUMP HER ASS!

dustrabbit

Enrique:
How old are you? If you're still a teen, just let it go. Why? Even if she didn't cheat on you, there's something you wrote that really concerns me:

we have a certain respect for eachother, and i am too overprotective towards her. so she feels i dont trust her! but how can i trust a cheater? i have soo much respect for her i just want the same back for me!

This sounds like my wife. She's way too overprotective and suspicious. No matter what I say or no matter how much evidence points away from any bad behavior on my part, I'm guilty in her eyes until she decides I'm not guilty, which is rare on her part. (I'm not of the cheating kind, by the way.) It's actually insecurity that's driving this in her, and maybe even you. So whether she's cheating or not, you're gonna let your emotionas rule. Even if she's able to convince you she isn't guilty (regardless of actual guilt), there will be other times you will accuse her. Believe me, it's a cycle, and only you can break it. and if you don't break it, she will. And if neither one of you break it, this relationship of yours could be put into the dysfunctional category. If you're young, learn from this, please.

By the way, you don't say if you're an active Witness, an ex-Witness or what. What are you? I'm curious only b/c I find most ex-JWs who just got out are a little suspicious for a while... deprogramming, baby. Especially if your "gf" isn't or never was a Witness.
take care,
the dustrabbit

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