Leaving without losing (page 2)

VeniceIT

AHAHHAHAAHA Hyacinth Bucket would make the most excelent JW!!!!

Ohh that's soo good! And Richard is the ideal Elder, with her making all the descions. Can you say Elderette!

Venice

My wife was/is a pioneer of 13 years and as JW as one can get. I was an elder, WT study conductor, bkstdy conductor, etc. When I learned the real truth, I knew it would end the marriage as that was the only thing we had in common. I knew that she would never, NEVER be happy outside the org. and away from her family whether she thought it was right or wrong. So, I woke her up early one Saturday morning and told her that I had been researching much information on my own and had discovered many indusputable facts that proved that there are many errors in the JW belief. I told her that I loved her but she had a choice: To allow me to share this with her or for us to separate. She did not want to hear one word. I packed my bags that day.

eyes_opened

Hey somebody,

I started out telling my husband things *as* I was feeling them...I started realizing something was wrong with JW's as an organization long before I actually started reading *apostate* literature. After my twin boys were born 5 years ago, one was quite ill, so I had stopped going to the meetings as he wasn't supposed to be around people so he wouldn't get sick. During this time we were called upon for a shepherding call and one elder had the audacity to look at me and say "try not to worry too much, if your baby dies now you'll see him again in the resurrection" I was so mad and flabbergasted he would say such a thing I left the room and never looked back. That was the straw that broke the camels back for me. My husband is great, even though we were both raised as JW's, he is a *real* person whom I have never been afraid to talk to. I have been honest with him about any doubts I have, and I have been reading him parts of Crisis of Conscience. He is as shocked as I am about what we're learning. The more you read about the failed prophesies, the illogical decision making, and the internal politics within the organization and the control these men hold over peoples lives the angrier you get!! It's a long, arduous, emotionally laden journey getting out of this *organization* And as hard as it is for me I realize that I don't have it as bad as many out there who have left who haven't had a wonderful support group like I have found with you folks here, or a supportive husband who loves me more than a group of old farts in Brooklyn Thanks again for your opinions and advice. THey have been invaluable to me.

Eyes

anglise

Hi everyone

We came into the org together 20 years ago. We had been married 7 years and had 3 young children.
We have always discussed everything even before we were married and so when the cracks began to show in the WTBTS it was normal for us to talk about it without feeling guilty or frightened. Other half was an elder for many years but always tried to keep the loving view in perspective and so the society rules and regs did not overawe us or our children.
For the last 18 months we have spent hours researching all aspects of the WTBTS and the bible and have talked into the early hours on countless occasions trying to make sure that there is nothing we have overlooked and that they still just might be right!!!
For the last year we have begun to share this with our children and they too are withdrawing from the snares of the WTBTS cult.
The society is right on just one thing you need good communication to hold a family together, but then any good family councellor will tell you this without enslaving you to there particular ethos.
We did openly discuss it as a family when others left the org or were disfellowshipped in the past so leaving wasnt a taboo subject.

Maybe we're right, maybe we're wrong, time will tell, we can only work with what we know now.

zev

Thank you somebody for posting the ???'s you asked.
I sat and read the other posts. One struck me and hit home. It was that of, paulvarjak. I sat here and was stunned. I thought i had wrote it!

When I learned the real truth, I knew it would end the marriage as that was the only thing we had in common.

You know my situation, Isn't that statement a "grand-slam".

I knew that she would never, NEVER be happy outside the org. and away from her family whether she thought it was right or wrong.

All I can say to that is....ditto.

Now sitting back and pondering......What to do?

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zev

Sitting on the Wrong Side of the Fence Class

paulvarjak

Zev-

I struggled with the same question for many months. I asked myself if I could be happy 'pretending' to be a JW to save my marriage, but I knew that I would not and could not be happy, and ultimately we both would be unhappy as a result. I realized that the JW belief was the only common thread and to remove that would destroy our marriage's foundation and her respect for me. She was so completely involved in pioneering, assisting others in the cong., and assisting her family and that was where her joy lay. I couldn't take that from her.

Paul

Leaving without losing

VeniceIT

paulvarjak

eyes_opened

anglise

zev

paulvarjak

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