Kjell- Thanks for writing! My father was sick with cancer- I got QUICKLY reinstated- they cut corners cause my dad was sick & a servant- and my WHOLE family are witnesses- then I spent the last two years in contact with my dad- then he passed away. That was two years ago. Since then, I have been to probaby less than 10 meetings- of course I still didn't get priveledges back- so didn't do much. Everyone knows why I went back- and since my family are all witnesses- they sort of "tolerate" me. I am in their territory- so if they need bathrooms or drinks on a Saturday morning, or want to "encourage" me they stop by- so I think I am living on the edge so to speak. BUT, they have NO idea I HAPPILY go to church on Sunday mornings, or else I would be marked or dissed or something. My dad was a "normal" guy- not the usual witness stereo type- he kept my mom in line- was a decent servant- was a good guy. Now that he is gone- she goes OVERBOARD trying to save me & my husband "So we can see dad again- and be there when he wakes up" She just never stops- emails calls stopping by- she is the EXTREME witness, if you know what I mean! Just wondered if you as a "elder" had something to say to her to appeal to her witness side :-) It has been since WAY before 1995 that I faded out- so I don't even know how to appeal to her anymore- but did tell her the other day I liked being disfellowshipped before- cause I was out of her clutches. That shut her up- for a day :-) Now the poor lady is at the three day convention- do you remember the hours of brain dead you felt- and numb- or when you were in, were you in, and good? :-) Thanks for writing. You know, they say Apostacy is saying the truth isn't the truth- and they scare you from saying what you think but true apostacy as in the dictionary is to say there is no god. Thats not what we're saying here. We are only saying we want to serve GOD & not an organization. BEST WISHES! Melissa