Anybody have any experience with this? (page 2)

stillin

On the bright side, my all-in wife is livid about it.

It's very strange that they *want* us (DF people) to come to funerals...OOPS! "memorial services" (for the 'witness', of course), but my family will dis-invite me to weddings. Oh, yes, so-and-so is getting married, but of course you can't come. Quite frankly, they want us to share their pain, but not their joy.

Let's analyze it. So, I go to the funeral home for my grampy's visitation, and my aunt rushes up and hugs me (after 15 years of shunning) "Oh, we miss you so much!"

Me, stiff as a bloody board, and not returning the faux hug. "This is grampy's funeral. And if you miss me, well, my number is in the book."

For moi, it's not worth it. I would rather grieve alone than deal with the lying, emotional vampires that are JWS.

xo

tal :sunglasses:

LisaRose

This is just horrible, disgusting behavior, it's like these people have no moral compass or true sense of right or wrong. They are letting those clowns in New York keep them from showing basic human kindness and compassion. I think if I was going to be treated like that I would just skip the whole thing all together.

prologos

LisaRose20 minutes ago

--if I was going to be treated like that I would just skip-- and be happy to not be part of it,

oppostate

Not at a funeral but at a JW wedding the father of the bride was "allowed" to attend the ceremony at the hall. He couldn't walk his daughter down the aisle or the couple would have to find another place to hold the wedding and most of the guests wouldn't show up because of the father being DF'ed.

Later in the day when guests were invited to go on to the reception hall, a nice rented place outside of town, the father showed up and was immediately "stopped" at the parking lot by some of the friends of the groom who were asked to be on the lookout for him (and his new wife who was a "worldly person"). She could go into the place but he was asked to remain outside. He said he was going in anyway.

The place was very nice. The groom's family had put out a lot of bucks to rent the place and the decorations and meal were excellent. I opted to go for a little air outside while my wife and some of the gals had a hen session inside.

So, that's where I saw these friends of the groom blocking the entrance with their bodies and telling the father he'd have to wait a few minutes. One of them went in and told the groom, and that was pretty much the end of the reception for a lot of the invited guests since they were told that a DF'ed person was going to try to come in and if their conscience said they should leave then they should.

The father explained that he wasn't going to stay long. Just to come in and wish them well, give them a present they'd brought. He wasn't even expecting to stay for food or drink.

Well, it turns out the father didn't come into the reception hall. He was very upset, visibly so, his hands shaking and he seemed on the verge of tears. He was clearly not a violent person and it hurt him deeply that he was treated this way. The daughter came outside. They walked off into the parking lot among the cars together.

My wife wanted to leave saying that it wouldn't be appropriate to stay there if a DF'ed person was allowed in the reception place as we shouldn't even eat a meal with DF'ed persons.

I started to explain to her that the DF'ed person was the father and that it seemed he wasn't going to come in after all. But, to no avail.

As we got into our car I saw the daughter in tears. The father trying to reach out to her with a pleading expression on his face and his daughter swatting off his hand and looking away.

It was one of those moments that stick out in my mind as being part of my waking up to the reality of all the hurt this JW religion has caused families due to it's DF'ing policies.

wannabefree

It is because of 1 Corinthians 5:11 ... net even eating with such a man ... I was at an after funeral luncheon many years ago, a disfellowshipped woman came to the lunch, the funeral was for her father after all, and most of the JW lemmings got up and left after a strong arming by the P.O, ... I was one of the lemmings, it shames me now and I knew it felt wrong then.

DwainBowman

I have got to say one good thing for the congregations I am stuck around. So far when it has come to this issue, it has been like a short term pass has given. We had three sudden deaths in a very short time just a year or so back. At all three after event's, there were a number of df'ed family and friends there, and most, inculding the elders spoke to them, with compassion and kindness. The effects were positive as far as jw land was concerned, at least 2 have been reinstated since. If they had been kucked in the guts one more time, I am pretty sure, they would have never gotten them back.

This from a hanging congragation, that is know for its very harsh treatment and df'ing at the dropping of a hat!

Dwain

stan livedeath

all together now-----

ITS A CULT

cantleave

The cruelty of this cult is beyond belief. I have already decided I will not attend the funerals of any of my JW relatives, first of all I don't really want to attended an infomercial for this despicable cult and secondly I don't deserve to be shunned by a bunch of brainwashed zombies.

Anybody have any experience with this?