getting your children to love you back without fea

by allen 16 Replies latest jw experiences

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  DakotaRed

  Allen, just jump around the site and join in on any thread you like. We all need the continued encouragment and support of each other.

  I am in the middle of a divorce from my dub wife right now. Friday night, she came by to return the last of the house keys and also had asked me to tune up her van. Since she pays me now, I don't mind. As I was working, she started the usual discussion of she now sees where it all went wrong. There was a portion of blame for everyone, except her of course, and the JWs. When I mentioned that they really screwed me over and actually drove me away, she did admit that they mishandled things and were very wrong, but she can't let go of them. Even if she did, it is too late for any reconciliation now. But, I was amazed that she can admit how they screwed me, yet just accept it as imperfect humans. Yet, after I DA'd and let it be known that any JW coming in my house and shunning me within my own home was not welcome on the property, she blew her top, saying I knew what would happen when I chose to DA.

  Many just don't realize the power those greedy vultures wield over others.

  Hang in there, Allen. Check out all the threads and offer your story to all as well as your two cents. We all need it and have been screwed and hurt by the JWs.

  Lew W
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  allen

  hi there lew

  when i was reading over the threads i say your note,

  just wanted to ask you if i got the picture right.

  so what i guess is that the bros were coming by to see your wife and wern"t having anything to say to you in your own house.??? thatspetty,childish,silly,stupid and rude. nice talkin"

  ALLEN
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  DakotaRed

  Allen, whenever she or her kids had visitors, meaning any JWs, I was shunned and not even spoken to in a, "Hi, how are you." If they sat down in the living room, I was expected to leave the room, if I was there. I let it be known they could expect in one hand and crap in the other and see which one filled up first.

  Right after I DA'd and they started acting this way whenever they came over, I made up the following sign and pasted it to my front door:

  NOTICE TO ALL

  JehovahsWitnesses !

  If your conscience dictates that you

  shun and ignore the disassociated head

  of this household; Then your conscience should

  also dictate that you not enter the premises

  or take advantage of the possessions purchased

  or owned by that same disassociated head

  of the household.

  In plain English, if you cannot be cordial

  and friendly and greet ALL members of

  this house, then please exercise your

  freedom to leave the property!
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  allen

  That "s cool Red , and very much to the point , like "I treat you LIke you treat me.!

  plain simple , and to the point. thanks red, allen
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  plmkrzy

  There are many stories here where the parents have stopped associating with the witnesses and their children who are still in the organization forbid them from interacting with their grandkids. It is surely a heartbreaking situation.

  Yep there are. And it definately goes in both directions.

  The cases I personally know of the parents were not allowed to see the grand kids because they were JWs. As long as they were JWs the grand kids were forbidden to see them. Sad. actually discusting in bothe directions.
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  allen

  THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR your REPLY IT WAS REALLY GREAT TO HEAR FROM SOMEONE THIS EARLY IN THE MORNING. I SAW YOU PICTURE VERY PRETTY "sis"

  ya maybe plumcrazy , but yer plumpretty also!! lov"ya" bunches allen
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  allen

  i apologize for not getting bak to you sooner Shimmer ,

  My own mother was"t allowed to babysit the kids , because i did"t want her

  beatin on them like she used to beat on me, you know ,come to think of it

  Ibrought it up to the "E" s on three seperate occasions , do you think they believed me ?

  K N O W!!! just the babling of a small child ,I applaude you . though it"s difficult . KEEP YOUR KIDS OUT OF HARMS WAY .lov ya bunches Allen