by smiddy 22 Replies latest jw friends
I was inspired to post this because so many of you lovingly support your spouse by going to meetings conventions etc .knowing the crap your going to have to put up with , hoping that someday he/she will wake up to the BS.
And your willing to do this for as long as it takes .I take my hat off to you all.
It must take a lot of intestinal fortitude and love to do that .
smiddy
I Second the Motion Smiddy, (pardon the pun, see "intestinal fortitude" in the O.P).
I really don't know how I would have dealt with it if Mrs Phizzy had not joined me in never going again. Knowing me, if she begged me to attend with her once in a while I might have weakened, and gone.
But that night when I looked back on the Kingdom Hall, thinking "I will never step in there again" I was really determined not to, I felt I could not, and be true to myself.
At least I know that I would have been totally open and honest with Mrs Phizzy about TTATT, because that is what I was, before I knew what her reaction would be, and boy, can she be fiery if angered !
But each must do what they think best, over the years a good number of Posters who were on here managed to get their loved ones out, by attending, but all the time working on it, and primarily being a good, loving Partner and Parent.
Good luck to all ! Being free, along with your loved ones if possible, is just the best !
Thanks, smiddy. But it's really a thankless job. A person can only carry the charade so far and still be true to their own selves. The spouse realizes that you aren't fully "in" of course.
One can always hope.
I have to say though that I am finding it increasingly hard. Something has to give.
Today we had a talk about "Jehovah's Day" where the speaker emphasised how destructive Jehovah's Day will be. He used the scripture about the Last Days being like "pangs of distress", equating them to birth pangs, something that cannot be ignored and will always result in a conclusion. He then talked about it being as a thief.
I was sitting there steaming - which is it? Are the last days so eventful that they cannot be ignored or is discernment of events so limited that you have to keep watch as if waiting for someone to come in the dead of night and burgle your home?
Then we had the WT about training. The term "young ones" as used over and over again, except of course the article is only talking about young ones with a penis. Not one word about how females can "progress", because of course they can't go that far unless it's on the coat tails of their husband.
Of course, the disengagement of males in the congregation is down to them having secular goals. Perhaps so but no word about perhaps how the theology simply does not make sense anymore. Has my dis-engagement after 20 years as an MS come from not making the truth my own or the fact I woke up to the whole thing being a crock of shite?
After meetings like today's, I really feel fit to burst with anger and frustration.
Copied & pasted from my comment on PUNKOFNICE'S post about shunning.
No apologies - "Repetition for Emphasis" as we were taught in the Ministry School!
I am well aware that some people feel that just walking into a K.H. is giving tacit approval of the Org. Wrong. If I listen to BBC News, it doesn't signify my approval/agreement with their journalistic slant on things. I can reason for myself. Visiting an "indoctrination clinic" once or twice per month - and absolutely nothing more - is a small price to pay to hold onto our families, and hopefully one day, get the opportunity to share TTATT with them.
Congrats to everyone who can do it.
