Kudos to you People Who support your Spouse Suffering Meeting Attendance

by smiddy 22 Replies latest jw friends

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  Vidiot

  I'm really lucky; my wife and kids are faders along with me.
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  freemindfade

  Thank you. Can only hope one day she wakes up. I think like many she sees it getting strange but would never say and just wants to play along and be sure to get to the paradise petting zoo. So the pioneering and indoctrination goes on.
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  DwainBowman

  Thanks Smidly! I have been playing the game now for just about 2 years, and it is getting harder all the time!

  But I have a lot going on, other than that! It's going to come down to me, or a granddaughter, that is about as hateful, selfish, thief and lier, you could ever want to meet! Then add physical trouble's on top, I am just not sure any of it is worth it !

  Dwain
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  konceptual99

  Lately I have been thinking about what exactly is the worst that could happen if I just said to my wife that I don't believe it anymore. She knows I have doubts but I think the reason she does not press me that hard about it is that she is scared that I don't want it any more. What really is the worst that can happen by opening up about the extent of my feelings?

  I have no fear about my marriage so once the initial upset is over then perhaps things would just be pragmatic as I know she would not want me to escalate things so I was DF'ed or DA'ed myself.

  It would certainly make managing the increasing questions from the kids easier to handle plus no more making excuses about the ministry etc.
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  Crazyguy

  I disagree, unless the ones going are pointing out things to the spouse to show its all crap or asking questions to get him/her to think then your wrong for supporting them. By going your giving the spouse false hope that your going to rejoin the religion and that maybe even more reason for them to continue to go. I have stopped and will not in any way support this evil cult and you all should stop too and say something to your spouses.
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  disposable hero of hypocrisy

  Crazy guy, I understand many feel the need to make a firm stand, but everything seems to indicate that you can't TELL someone ttatt. They've got to want to know it themselves.

  My wife knows how I feel and she knows I'm only going to support her and not destroy our social circle. I ask occasional questions, but eventually, she'll want to know why I feel the way I do, and hopefully, because she WANTS to know, it'll have effect.
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  joe134cd

  You guys/girls deserve a medal, because I certainly could do it.
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  SonoftheTrinity

  Excuse me, what idiot would get dressed up, shave, and sit through the so-called Truth when he knows its all bullshit? Loving other people is great, but you have to love yourself in this life too. Any friends you have to fake it to stay in that circle of friends are no friends at all. This is what is wrong with emasculated men today, having a woman choose the family's religion and it being the most anti-intellectual one out there, and then pretending to go along with it all. That's not true love, thats being co-dependent and fake because the other partner is too weak to handle it. No Ma'am!
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  I quit!

  I can see doing this for a short time if you're working on a plan to get them out by introducing facts. Maybe getting them to know people outside the organization you feel can get them to start thinking. If your talking about people that keep attending year after year pretending to believe the Watchtower BS they aren't doing anybody any good. They are making it easier for their spouse to stay in and along the way might even inadvertently be getting other people involved in the Watchtower. I've heard of cases where both the husband and wife hadn't believed in years but were both just pretending to rather than make waves. They might have been out years earlier if one of them had taken a stand and said something.
  
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  smiddy

  I thank you for the replies received on this topic ,and their are some points of view expressed that need clarification ?

  Issues that could affect your decision to support your spouse , or not support them ?

  That could mean , are you a young couple ? with no children ?

  Are you a young couple with obviously young children ?

  Do you have siblings in the organization ,Parents children still in that you want to maintain normal relationships with ?

  Are you prepared to divorce your partner , or your partner divorce you over a difference in religion ?

  Lose your kids ? parents ? etc.

  Parents disowning their children ,Children disowning their parents all because of not staying in the Jehovah`s Witness religion .As it stands the organization is not changing ,arrogant as they are .The smart thing is to be smarter than they are , by working from the inside .Play their game .It`s called theocratic warfare .

  Obviously from the responses I have got not everybody does have the intestinal fortitude to play their game and win out , frankly I don`t know that I could , however their are many on this board who do and can.

  And I wish you all success in freeing up your loved ones from this cult.

  crazyguy & SonoftheTrinity , I take what you say on board , however I think the consequences of what would likely happen with a knee-jerk reaction would be a disaster compared to what these guys/gals are doing.

  To put it another way it`s not a sprint it`s a marathon

  smiddy