by joannadandy 28 Replies latest jw friends
So what do you do when someone makes you cry?
Depends on why they made me cry.....circumstances and personalities have a lot to do with how I would choose to react.
Bona
Good point, I was just thinking about it because I am setting a pattern of hiding it...that can't be healthy...lol
Depends on who makes me cry. But I usually just hide it, show a poker face and walk away. But if I want to make the person feel guilty, I'll show my tears.
There a few things you could do if someone makes you cry,you could say something back to make them cry,you could beat them up lol,you could worry about your eyeliner running (im not a woman),you could tell them you were just chopping onions,you could tell them you were in a play and practicing your part for it,you could tell them you missed going to meetings.
i never cry! my tear ducts are defective :(
I'm with Viv. And I agree that holding it in is not healthy. I'm all about letting someone know they hurt me or made me mad...unless of course, that's the reaction they wanted. If that's the case, I wouldn't give them the pleasure but I would let it all out once I was alone.
Bona
I try to be discreet, but I'm not ashamed to cry.
No, unless there's a really good reason for not letting on that I'm crying.
I might try to change the subject, but it's better to let our emotions come out naturally.
If I need to have a really good cry, then I'll do it privately, or in the arms of someone who loves me.
Or do you mean as in an argument? If that's the case, I'll let the other person know how I feel, and why. If I'm upset, I'll let the other person know.
Because they made me cry? No, everyone deserves a second chance.
No, that smacks of emotional manipulation. The best course is to explain why they made you cry. Perhaps they didnt meant to hurt you, or perhaps something YOU did has made THEM cry.
hmmm.... i guess it depends on who made me cry, what it was about, etc. i mean, if somebody @ work made me feel like crying, i wouldn't of course. but if it was someone i was close to, i would probably not hold back my tears. sometimes, though, you just can't help but weep a little. even if it's in public. one time, after i broke up with someone, i was all fine and everything and i went to the store to pick up some milk. that's all just a little carton of milk. so i'm waiting there in the express lane behind some old guy buying beer, cheetos and one of those plastic scubber thingies, and behind me is a fattish lady with two little kids screaming about candy, and anyway that one song comes on the intercom. it's called "love can make you happy" by mercy and all of a sudden i just started tearing up and i thought geez what's taking so long come on already and began wiping my eyes wishing i had a tissue and so anyway sometimes you can't keeo it in no matter how hard you tru it just happens.
but i would never, ever want to make anyone else cry, even if they made me cry.
p.s. i hope you didn't ask this because you're sad. if you are, my condolences.
At my last job, my boss took me in his office and screamed at me for about an hour and a half. I know he was trying to make me cry. He failed. I was so proud. A few years ago, I would have been genuinely scared and he would have broken me within a few minutes. I usually hide when I cry, too, but I cry far less than I used to.
