Dubs are ONE-track. "Spirituality" first and foremost and ONLY.
Sadly, emotional, physical and any other needs all too often go lacking amongst their own,
never mind amongst those they've "written off" as "non-persons".
I'd have to say YES, they would help. IF:
if they thought it would be a "good witness"
if they didn't think it would harm them politically within their religious community
if they couldn't rationalize their way out of helping somehow
if it didn't require going out of their way at all
if they didn't know you were DF'd, DA'd.
So basically, if you are df'd, da'd or even just inactive...and somehow you needed help,
and the only person around wuz a dub....chances are u r SOL.
IMO, If they do "help"...they have an ulterior agenda...and such help comes with a heavy debt or guilt trip all out of proportion to what they really did. Not the kinda "help" i need or want from anyone, least of all a witness.
If they don't help...it seems to me to be basically so they can point and say that you/we are worse off in "the world" (self-fulfilling prophecy). Also cuz they have "written you off" quite literally. They have passed their judgement. End of story.
Either way, the lack of "love" is blatantly apparent to me.
My life is much better without such "help".
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On the whole, I'd have to say that most "people",
dub or not, wouldn't lift a finger to help someone else
unless they thought there was something in it for themselves.
They all have their rationalizations about why not to help.
I repeat, this is a generalization, i have met one or two rare exceptions,
that seem capable of striking a great balance of give and take, without
any other motivation than being loving and giving and just doing what they can.
I'm not even sure if I'm one of these exceptions.
Even I have to sorta pick and choose how and when and whom I can help.
I can't do it all. But I try and even in small ways, I can do a lot.
I think we ALL, as a human race, make decisions about who and when to help,
based on our own conditioning, our own prejudices, our own whatever.
It doesn't even seem to matter how obvious or extreme the circumstances...
I have seen a real life recording of a homeless woman that got her scarf tangled in an
escalator and it strangled her to death. Noone was around to help her at the time,
however after the fact even, people actually stepped right over her dead body,
like it was simply in their way, without giving her so much as a second glance,
and without alerting anyone to her condition. Sickening.
Personally I try to set up my life in such a way
that I don't need anyone elses "help". jdub or not.
(i guess it could be said that being a jdub contributed to my attitude on this.)
Visiting this site, has been about the only exception to this rule of mine.
This forum is full of some really neat people that each in their own
way seem to participate in an effectively INTER-dependant
"community". I'm fiercely INdependant (to a fault) and
don't have much respect for extremely DEpendant people.
But this e-community has been good "practise" at venturing
to "lean" on others a bit, for once.
Maybe it's just that people, who see themselves as having a common bond, help each other.
As soon as that common bond isn't there, or isn't seen as being there, the people no longer help each other.
I wonder....if i ran across a dub needing my help...what would i do?
I think i would help in anyway i wuz capable...or i would find capable help.
I hope i wouldn't let my knowledge about how "they" view me,
stop me from helping them.
But as for their help, can't say i'd even want it.
More significant to me
than the "help" any person does or doesn't give,
is the motive or agenda behind it...the "spirit" it is done in.
SPAZ
