My mommy doesn't want me. . I need a hug (page 3)

I went throught the same thing a few years ago; I wrote letters to my mom & sister & tried calling my mom... Their response was about the same... "There's no relationship possible between us, because we can't talk about spiritual things together." Then they started inviting me to weddings, and sending me pictures of my sister's children when they were born... I ended up writing them and reminding them to try & have the courage of their own convictions; if they don't think there's any relationship possible between us, then stop trying to suck me back.

It all hurts; it sucks; I know... But you are loved, no matter what. I don't know if either of our families will come around, but we'll be OK, even if it's just because the alternative is unthinkable...

SPAZnik

(((((((sp))))))))

hugz to ya stinky.

SPAZ

ps - at the risk of butting in...i don't think Mac wuz aiming to hurt, do you?
maybe trying for a laff...as the saying goes...laughter is the best medicine.

LyinEyes

Dearest Sweetie,, here is your hug,, hope I am not hugging too tightly.

I lost my mom yrs ago and miss her very much. My dad is still a jw and since my mom died and he remarried he has had little to do with me. I have wrote letters, called, begged, everything for him to love me. This wonderful Minsterial Servant who used to be an elder for many years couldnt even love his very active JW daughter. He could do everything for everyone eles, but he never would give me what I needed. I called him one nite, crying saying I needed his help with some things that happend to me as a child . He said he would always be there,,, It was maybe 7 months before he called again. So much for the loving jw father. Tonite I disassociated myself , I doubt he will find out for awhile , until the gossip spreads, he will call, and I plan on telling him it is too late. I guess there is hope he will someday see the light, but as long as he is a JW he will be the same. I have accepted that.

I don't want to blab on about my family crap, but I thought it might help you to know that alot of us here are going thru the same thing. It is not your fault, you are a good daughter I am sure. It is there warped way of thinking, it is their problem. Sad, but there is not alot you can do to change their view they have to do that. I hope one day my dad and I can make peace. But I will not live my life to please him anymore. I have to move on. I hope you know you have family here, that is how i feel , and it hurts like hell. Here is another hug.............(((((((( StinkyPants))))))))))))) Dede

Hmmm

((((stinkypantz)))

For what it's worth, she probably loves you very much. She is just reacting out of fear the way she's been oh-so-subtly trained by the society to react. Don't take it personally, and don't give up on her!

Hmmm

YoursChelbie

(((((hugs)))))

Lots of love and you know we're here for you, if you just want to talk.

YoursChelbie

Edited by - YoursChelbie on 24 July 2002 2:7:15

dawn27

I am so sorry. I am in the same situation with my mom right now and it hurts. I an inactive and marrying an unbeliever and my mom informed my she won't be at my wedding even though it is going to be by a judge and not in a church. I guess they had a article last month about how to treat people who marry out of the borg. So, she has been getting pressure to not be supportive of me,, makes me so mad and upset. I called and told her that our relationship needs to be based on mother/daughter love and not on my status in the borg and she said that was "apostate garbage thinking". So, I told her that if our relationship is "garbage" to her we have nothing else to say and she hung up. I guess I got my answer. I know it hurts but I've just had to remember that they are misled in their loyalties and still love us in their own way. I think what hurts the most is that I am loosing respect for her for not loving her children unconditionally and standing up to the elders to be at my wedding. So, I keep trying to make excuses for her, but it is just hurting me to want acceptance that will never come. I think there is just a mourning period that we have to go through. Hang in there! I truely believe that they will see down the road that their children loved them unconditionally and they will have regrets that they allowed the borg to dictate their relationships with their own children. We are the ones showing natural family affection, and I will be ready to forgive my mom with all my heart when she comes around. Take care and hang in there, Dawn

jelly

I am very sorry that happened stinkypantz. Times like this make me wish I was better at expressing myself because my words fall short of accuratly expressing my sadness over your situation. Dont give up; in situations like this the parents sometimes come around and then things will be back better than before.

Jelly

Tish

Hey Stinky,

Life sucks, is she an active witness. I think it is worse when you get family members who are inactive etc, yet when they find it convient they then decide not to associate with you. At least if she is living as a JayDub properly she isn't being 2 faced, like some of my family.

Here's a hug from me.

Tish

Cassiline

Hugs to you Pantz.

(((((((((((((( Pantz )))))))))))))))

You are in my thoughts.

Consider yourself cyber adopted by me!

Edited by - cassiline on 24 July 2002 7:3:41

My mommy doesn't want me. . I need a hug

Imbue

SpiderMonkey

SPAZnik

LyinEyes

Hmmm

YoursChelbie

dawn27

jelly

Tish

Cassiline

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