There is a chat room called Jehovah witness recovery on msn. Its a place that i came to with the same type of attitude as the woman you discribed. You might also find a room full of ex jw's that you can pick our brains. I walked away because I was backsliding miserably and I couldnt figure out why. The whole thought they were great ppl but couldnt live up to the rules thing. I didnt agree with one teaching when I left, I didnt agree that they were Gods only choosen ppl., the only ones saved.
From there it has been a road of healing and revelation. i am now a christian, who seeks God and not religon.
Hope to see you there someday,
Italianmomma