Is it possible to love and be in love with two people at the same time?
A question
by sundialer 40 Replies latest social relationships
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Celia
NO !
You may think that you are loved and in love with 2 persons, but usually... one of the 2 is the one you live with, or the steady girl/boy-friend, whom (?) you are kinda tired of --- the other one is a co-worker or an acquaintance who also has a wife/husband or steady boy/girl friend, but who is so much more exciting......
The grass is always greener on the other side....
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Big Tex
"Are you going to stay with the one who loves you
Or are you going back to the one you love?" -- Glenn Frey -
sundialer
But my situation is much more unusual than that, and I am not sure I want to tell the whole story in this forum.
Suffice it to say that I am unbelievably torn.
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sundialer
And I have no answer for it.
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maxwell
I would not say that it's impossible. Polygamy has existed for a long time. It just happens to have a stigma attached to it in most Western countries.
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bitter mango
personally, i couldn't do it. and i don't think anyone else really can either.
here's an older thread regarding the same topic... http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=27211&site=3
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sundialer
This situation is consuming way too much of my consciousness right now.
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SYN
It makes no sense to be with someone that you don't want to spend the rest of your life with. Unless they're really good in bed
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Kingpawn
Sundialer,
Is it possible to love and be in love with two people at the same time?
That's like asking if one can be truly bisexual. Most people will say no, but there are a small number of people who are truly bi.
I think the same logic applies here. You may be in love with different aspects of each person. Maybe it's their sensitivity, friendliness, the fact they're always smiling, always cheerful, whatever ranks high in your values system.
Now, if it's an emotion based on sympathy or pity, I've been burned enough to know that's not a good basis for a relationship. Women are prone to this "bird with the crippled-wing syndrome" while a guy wants to be the "white knght." But when the problem's solved the attraction fades.
Sometimes admitting why we feel what we feel can be very painful.
Be careful.