((((((((((((((((((((Sentinel))))))))))))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Wish I could say the magic words and make it all go away. It's so wrong what this religion does to families. My heart goes out to you. Hang in there sweetie.
Please, I am so upset...I need some hugs...
by Sentinel 68 Replies latest jw experiences
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CC Ryder
(((((((Karen))))))))
I am very sorry to hear of the recent changes in your relationship with your Mom. It breaks my heart to keep hearing of these stories over and over again. They just keep breaking families apart. I went thru the same thing with Tink. When I met her in 1995, she was just getting re-instated in order to have a relationship with her mother. Her Mom had found out that her cancer had returned from years previous, and that her prognosis was not good. So Tink decided to return to the Borg. I met her about 10 months later. After our marriage her Mom got sicker. Around the same time we were beginning to cease our involvement with the Borg. When we finally became dis-associated, her Mom at first indicated that she may not be able to associate or talk to her. Fortunately, her Mom must have realized how sick she had become. Tink was able to have a very limited relationship with her during her last days. Her Mom had told her she wanted to see her. While she visited her Mom, she would have to listen to her trying to witness to her. Tink would patiently and lovingly listen and enjoy her conversations with her. She had even taken home magazines she had given her. She was very grateful for the time she had, even if it was on her Mom's terms.
I have told you this because your Mom had said something very similar to you. You stated that your Mom told you she would not have anymore dealings with you even if she was on her death bed. Tinks Mom had said the same thing. I hope you never face this type of situation, but I think that the love your mother has for you will eventually win out. If she chooses otherwise, the matter is out of your hands. You have been a good daughter to her and she knows it. I have come to realize that this religion has been everything to them. They have been really drawn into it. They know of nothing else.
My father is still an Elder. We barely speak at all. He will talk to me very briefly, every so often. It hurts you so bad when you know that they are being deceived, but can not get that through to them. The amount of time in hours that I have actually taked to my dad could be counted on one hand for over the last three years. It pains me very much Karen, that you are going through this right now. I firmly subscribe to the fact that nothing ever stays the same, and that the only constant in life, is change. Things always change in some aspect. You just go through whatever changes come your way. Hopefully the changes you see in the future will be ones that bring you joy. Please know, that Tink and I share in your pain and are here always for you to talk to.
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Xandria
((( HUGS ))) Karen.
I know how you feel and can relate. I am going through a hot and cold phase with my younger sister Tam. It is hard you want so much to have a special relationship. But when someone is not taking an active part it hurts. One can only do so much at times like this.
When the WTS heads really meet the Creator they are going to have a RUDE AWAKENING. An will be accountable for thier actions. No amount of double talk is going to absolve them of the damage they have done.
The term "Candle in the Wind" describes all of us pretty well.
Xandria
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flower
(((((((karen))))))))
theres really nothing more that i can add. :(
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Farkel
There is only one name that is the main cause of all of this.
That name is "Ted Jaracz."
Remember HIM. He is the modern-day Rutherford and he's every bit as megalomanical and evil as Da Judge.
ONE single man. Jaracz. He runs the soap-opera known as "Jehovah's Christian Witnesses."
Farkel
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StinkyPantz
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I cried after reading your story. I fear this same thing could happen to me. I am SO sorry!
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SpiderMonkey
(((((Sentinel)))))
I, too, am separated from my mom because of similar BS... I feel your pain It really hurts to not be able to keep getting to know someone in her 40's & 50's when she was with you all through her 20's & 30's...
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bikerchic
((((((Karen))))))
I feel so overwhelmed with sadness. I have a sinking feeling that we will hear a lot more stories like yours, mine included.
I am glad that we have this place to come to and console each other, I hope my hug helps you and your sisters.
((((((Sooner and Polly))))))
Just one thing girls never give up on your Mother, call her, write to her and be just the opposite of what she has been programed to be, BE LOVING!
bc of the tearful class
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sunshineToo
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I am so sorry for your situations.
I am going through a similar situation for myself. I am DA'd, and I'm getting married soon. My mother, who is a jw, told me that she won't have meal with me or see me any more. Some of you may know that she also told me that she is not going to come to my wedding, too. Lately she's been talking to me over the phone asking about my wedding preparation. She said that she is inviting maybe 3 couples. Maybe she'll come to my wedding after all. But I'm preparing myself for her shunning after the ceremony. I love my mom dearly, and I know that she loves me so much, too. She is getting so much pressure and brain-wash from the WTS. I'm sure she is going through a lot of heartache right now as much as I am. I HATE THIS CULT! I HATE THIS CULT! I HATE THIS CULT!
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professor
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Sorry about this. I too have been a victim of this "new light" and I feel your pain.