Im better off

WildTurkey

Many of us here, are not sure what the future holds, if there is a god, and if so what is his purpose. I too fall into that category, but I think Im better off now because when I was a dub, I always wondered if I was doing enough to get into the new world. I worried about if my children would make it and if I was taking the lead for my wife and the cong. I feel sorry for those still in, I know they look down on us, and think we are worm food, but they have no life, they are not allowed to be adults and make their own decisions, they have to obey the WT.

5 meetings a week, service, WT reading, having friends that will dump in a heart beat if the elders DF you, and they dont even know if you really did anything wrong. Yeah I think we are better off.

roybatty

WT, I don't know how long you've been gone but one thing I've noticed is that the longer I'm away from that crazy religion, the better off I am. I've been officially DA'd for about two years now and haven't been to the kingdom hall in probably 3-1/2 years but it's taken much of that time to cleanse myself of all the JW thinking. When one is mentally free of a prison, that's when they're truly free and even better off.

bay64me

I was recently discussing this very thing with a friend of mine, who as yet, has not been able to sever ties with them.

As we looked back over various times we shared together out on field service, laughed about funny things we observed, mistakes we made, crappy advice we heeded from certain elders and just gossiped outragously about some of the members still in there, (a privelege we once did not have) I thought it was really sad that for the most part of our time in there, it was one BIG trial after another.

Personally, most of my prayers to jehovah consisted of absolute pleas for assistance to help me to cope or forgive or understand. I was always 'working on' something or other and never felt I was giving enough even though I gave them 60 hours p/m, full attendance at all meetings and looked after my home and family! Not to mention the hours of study, reading the days text, praying with children, helping them with ways to 'reason' with their schoolfriends as to why they were different and couldn't take part in this and that etc. Oh yes and there was the 'hospitality' thing, whereby on our 'free' evenings we felt obliged to invite someone in the congregation who perhaps we didn't know so well in order to 'widen out'!........(takes a DEEP breath!)............

And while i'm at it........what about those 'wholesome' parties and get-togethers one had to endure, where we always seemed to end up playing the same old games and eating not-very-nice-home-baked-cakes?!

Laugh? I'm glad that I can now!

Wild Turkey, I've read a few of your posts and know what you and your wife have been through lately and I totally agree with you..........we are better off now!

"Friends that will dump in a heart beat"

Don't get me started on that one!

Jim_TX

Hey WildTurkey!!!

Yeah, I know how you feel. I think that all of us who are no longer associated with that 'cult' organization are tons happier, too!

The best thing that you can do to a JW - is be happy. This only puzzles them... because you're not supposed to be happy, they are. They know they aren't, but cannot explain you're happiness. It just doesn't 'fit' their programming. So, they mentally shutdown.

Have you ever seen a JW mentally shutdown? *grin*

Another thing that ex-JWs need to realize is that the JW organization no longer has a 'hold' on them or their lives. Whatever decisions you now make are yours.

The only one that you can 'blame' now for your successes - or failures - is yourself - because YOU control your destiny.

Life is good.

Regards,

Jim TX

Prisca

Another thing that ex-JWs need to realize is that the JW organization no longer has a 'hold' on them or their lives. Whatever decisions you now make are yours.

The only one that you can 'blame' now for your successes - or failures - is yourself - because YOU control your destiny.

Excellent words of wisdom here.

jack2

Wow, I can sure relate to this thread, and I'm not even "out".

bay64, said:
Personally, most of my prayers to jehovah consisted of absolute pleas for assistance to help me to cope or forgive or understand. I was always 'working on' something or other and never felt I was giving enough even though I gave them 60 hours p/m, full attendance at all meetings and looked after my home and family! Not to mention the hours of study, reading the days text, praying with children, helping them with ways to 'reason' with their schoolfriends as to why they were different and couldn't take part in this and that etc. Oh yes and there was the 'hospitality' thing, whereby on our 'free' evenings we felt obliged to invite someone in the congregation who perhaps we didn't know so well in order to 'widen out'!........(takes a DEEP breath!)............

All I can say is, "Amen" to that.......I didn't do the 60 hours thing, but the rest of it sure applies.

Good post WT.

dsgal

WT,

I know I'm better off because I always went around feeling guilty that I wasn't doing enough for Jehovah,or maybe I was bringing reproach on his name and wouldn't survive Armageddon.I felt the need to be perfect,which is impossible,but the society seems to always be putting that kind of pressure on everyone.Now that I'm inactive,I quit a lot of little nervous habits I once had.

imanaliento

while they look down on me, I'm looking right back at them. Who are they to judge.

I still believe in God, just not the organization, so with that we have only 2 commandments to abide by with Jesus being the mediator, not the elders.

p.s. I think you have a good woman standing beside you!!!!!!!!!!

Dawn

A non-JW friend once quoted to me Jesus' words "My yoke is kindly and my load is light" - then said, "if the yoke you are carrying now is not kind or light then it's not Jesus' yoke - so you need to figure out just whose yoke you're carrying."

Now THAT was great advice for me. It helped me break free from the guilt.

Monster

Hi WildTurkey,

I don' t know your story with the Jehovah's Witness but have you recently been df? or did you leave on your own?. You seem hurt and happy at the same time I was just wondering.

Peace James

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