Shunned father's daughter dies

by Rado Vleugel 24 Replies latest jw friends

  • jgnat
    jgnat

    My condolences to you, Larry. Nothing can bring your daughter back, but take comfort that you fought like a Papa Bear to do everything you could for Bethany. It sounds like she was a strong, courageous, and intelligent girl - a credit to your parenting.

    I am also angry that you were cut off from seeing your daughter to the bitter end.

    This is how you were quoted by the Edmonton Journal today: "I feel sad, and angry, very angry," he said. "I didn't even get a chance to see her. I didn't even get a chance to say goodbye. I had a moral and legal right to see my children, especially my dying daughter, and they stopped me from doing that. I think what they have done is criminal."

  • Scully
    Scully

    Here's the text of another news article about Bethany that appeared on AOL News.
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    Jehovah's Witness teen lived life on her own terms, until her dying day

    By Carol Harrington

    CALGARY (CP) - Barely two, Bethany Hughes hadn't learned how to walk but she knew exactly how to get a toy back from her eight-year-old sister.

    Crawling on hands and knees, she charged across the room, rammed her head into her sister's stomach, knocked her opponent down and snatched the spoils.

    "She's stubborn, obstinate, direct and bold," Lawrence Hughes says proudly of his daughter. "She was born that way."

    Hughes, who died of leukemia Thursday in an Edmonton hospital barely two weeks after her 17th birthday, was a fighter and eventually the Jehovah's Witness teen won the fight of her life - the right to refuse blood transfusions and to die with dignity.

    Her family was torn apart after her father consented to blood transfusions. Bethany, her mother and two sisters argued for the right to refuse the blood as dictated by the Witness faith, but the courts ruled that the transfusions were the girl's only real hope.

    The middle child, sandwiched between two sisters - Cassandra, now 15, and Aphalia, 22 - Bethany quickly carved out her own place. She was incessantly curious about people and things around her, said her mother.

    "Bethany just loved people, she was always outgoing," said Arliss Hughes.

    "She's a very determined young women, never taking anyone's say-so. She investigates it on her own."

    Born Aug. 20, 1985, Bethany was raised in a 10-bedroom Victorian brick house in Belleville, Ont. Her father, an architect engineer, and her mother, a restaurant waitress, and the three girls drove around town in their stylish Cadillac.

    The day the infant Bethany came home from hospital, she made her first visit to the Kingdom Hall. The family went to church meetings three times a week, with Bethany often decked out in frilly dresses, sometimes wearing identical clothes to those of her younger sister and best friend, Cassandra.

    A bundle of energy, she loved sports, not so much to win but simply to play - volleyball, tennis, skiing, swimming, and cycling. The tomboy of the family, she regularly visited the hospital to have a broken leg or a sprained ankle mended.

    "It was a joke at the hospital because everyone knew her by name," said her father. "She was on crutches a lot."

    Bethany was extremely bright and a quick study.

    By age four, she would read to her kindergarten classmates their report card marks and the teacher's comments.

    "Parents used to get upset because their kids would come home and they would already know what their marks were," her father said.

    "The parents wanted to share their kids' excitement, but Bethany had already told them all their marks."

    At 13, Bethany was excited about the family moving from a small city to Calgary, leaving behind the Spice Girls and Backstreet Boys for more mature alternative music. She discovered downhill skiing and hockey games at the Saddledome.

    "We have the same interests," Cassandra said recently. She added shopping, babysitting, and cooking to the list.

    An avid Maple Leafs hockey fan, the door of Bethany's hospital room - where she spent half of this year battling cancer - was draped with a banner: "Go Leafs Go."

    The room was crammed with more than 100 stuffed animals, hundreds of get-well cards, helium balloons, Star Wars videos and two prized Maple Leafs sweaters. Always within arm's reach was her most valued possession - the Bible - her perpetual source of hope and inspiration.

    The Canadian Press, 2002

    09/5/2002 20:13 EST

  • hawkaw
    hawkaw

    jf

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  • hawkaw
    hawkaw

    If you go into the Toronto Star you will see the most recent CP article on the right side

    http://www.thestar.com

    Larry got up and started talking lawsuit against the WTS and the WTS Lawyer Gamn started talking back.

    I don't know if was a good thing or a bad thing. Gamn should have kept his mouth shut - Larry needs to grieve whether the WTS likes what he has to say or not.

    I hope Larry can find some sort of peace and calm but I just don't know.

    Damn

    hawk

  • nowaytess
    nowaytess

    Did any notice how they Larry graam tried to Blame Larry for teaching her? I find that appaulling to blame a greiving dad for teachiner her teh ways of her father's faith instead fo where the real blame belongs which is with the Watchtower policies.

    I did not see any blame on the mother for taking the daughter away. Or how she had nay responsiblity in nay way. NOw the mother will be a JW hero, but how will she feel months later when a parents deep grief set in for the death of a child? Or how will the marriage hold up. Will the Wt take blame of it breaks up due to it's poliicies? Answer is NO.

    Larry did not blame his wife for her actions which are reprehesable. The Wt lawyer blame Larry for teaching them. . . what a sick bunch!

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