You poor darlin.
I'd probably graciously decline from the offer. I find myself *grinning and baring it* many many times. But then again, it's probably better to speak up and speak your mind, right! I'll probably go off one of these day's and hurt someone!!! lol
Your situation is one of the main reasons why I moved over a hundred miles from my family. The futher away that I am from that kind of bullshit, the better I'm gonna be! You'd be better off to distant yourself from your toxic family too!
(((((((cyber hug)))))))