SHUT UP AND.................

by plmkrzy 16 Replies latest jw friends

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  Swan

  Even shunned by only one can be hurtful. Being shunned by the ones who were your closest friends, like I was, is extremely hurtful.

  Plum;

  Yes, it hurts so much. Sometimes I think I am over it, but then it comes back, all of the pain. Am I not the same person they onced loved? My basic personality has not changed. I am still the same loving, caring individual they knew. Only my beliefs have changed. Why should that be a reason to shun?

  I know how you must feel because I have felt the same. I am so sorry for the pain you have suffered at their hands. Even after we have left they have found a way to control us. They control us with this pain. They keep us afraid of making contact with each other with the "apostate" label. They keep us in the dark about who is in and who is out and we have had no way to contact each other after we left (prior to the Internet). They control us because we are different from other people we meet out there and who just don't understand what we have been through.

  But through this board, our words, our feelings expressed here, and other venues like this board, we are slowly taking back control of our lives. We are here for the newbies, but we are here for each other too, because the pain isn't something you can just turn off.

  My deepest sympathies for your pain and your loss.

  Tammy
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  myself

  NOTHING would happen if JWs would not allow it plain and simple

  Plum, that is so true, unfortunately, the majority are afraid to think, or make decisions for themselves lest they be accused of independent thinking. They even cut and paste material to give any "spiritual" replies regarding anything borg. It is sad. They are taught to love conditionally or not to show that love within its boundries in case anyone is watching.

  ((((((Plum)))))) thanks for your support here, you are appreciated.
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  plmkrzy

  Hey Thanks everyone who responded and Big thanks for understanding.((((((((Big Hugs to you all))))))

  I like it when I go on the board and see words describing what I'm feeling, because I have a hard time expressing myself .

  I can certainlly relate too that. For me, it's my sense of humor. My sense of humor has grown over the years into dark sarcasim, or something along those lines. I now live in dark comedy. I often probably say things that are taken wrong due to not being able to see my face when reading something I've posted. I forget that little detail often.

  Now if we could just manage to organize a great big festival where we could all meet up and be this family in person.

  That would be one great party wouldn't it? Of course some of us would have to wear protective clothing and boxing gloves but, It would still be a blast.
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  Solace

  Plm,

  I havent even been here that long and already the initial shock of finding out the truth about the "truth" is beginning to fade. Although topics like, the blood doctrine, sexual, physical and emotional abuse will always upset me and probably cause me to react, I feel that I am pretty much done venting. I have learned quite a bit from everyone here and would love to meet all of you!

  So when is this party Plumcrazy?
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  Dutchie

  Just tell me when and where to show up.

  I'll be there!
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  Flip

  Let the newbies do the ranting and raving and the rest of us be supportive rather then blah blah blah I hate this and I hate that and I hate them and I hate everything blah blah blah blah.

  Poignant, to say the least.
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  plmkrzy

  Poignant, to say the least.

  hmmm, so so, whats your point?

  Just kidding. But seriously was I being a bit too harsh? If so I apologize. I'm not being derogatory to newbies, I just meant that why not allow the newbies to break in as did the not so newbies and the not so newbies can make room. Thats all.