Welcome G.T.
It is great to have you here! You are not alone. A lot of us were hoodwinked and bamboozled.
Do you have family that are JWs?
Chester
I feel damaged by my experience
by girltalking 24 Replies latest jw experiences
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BluesBrother
Hello , good evening and WELCOME !
We have all been where you are and you are now in good company. I am still in association ,for family reasons, but I consider myself mentally free.
It took something special to cause me to realise the real truth
Glad to have you with us
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Valis
girltalking, welcome to the board. Its always sad when you look to the lost time invested in JWland, but you are still young and have much to look forward to. Not only are there many good people here, but there's the whole world waiting for you to add to the mix of life. As well, its better to feel damaged than numb, or under the delusion that everything is all happiness and sunshine. The trick is to find constructive ways to fix your damage. Posting here is a good way, making an effort to meet people, involve yourself in celebrations of ANY kind, meet with us at an Apostafest, find new hobbies, or take up old ones, find a cute guy/girl to ask out, and by all means, don't ever look back. Once again, welcome and enjoy.
Sincerely,
District Overbeer
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FreeFallin
Hi Girltalking, and Welcome
I felt like you did a year ago, but coming here has been of tremendous value. Give yourself time and learn the truth about the Watchtower, the real truth,that is. It will get better, I promise. In the mean time, there are plenty of intelligent and compassionate people on this forum who have had horrible situations in their lives and "came off victorious"... god, I hate that term! Hang in there, read and learn.
All the best to you.
FreeFallin
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wednesday
Hi, I too want to welcome u. i just found this board a few days ago myself. It sounds like u were able to make a break from the Jw's-did u DA yourself or have u been DF? I have noticed from reading that the most successful people make clean breaks. some cannot. that is a lot of us. I am one of the born and raised in truth people. I have been inactive so long -well no one cares really much. what i do-however i bet if i put up a xmas tree they'd finally make a call to my home. be glad u got out while u are still young. Not that I am older than dirt-but i marrried in teens and now am a young grandmojther.(and a darn cute one:) I I too have have researched some xjw sites. So far this one seems to be the friendliest-especially for those of us still trappped in the org.
Actually it was Silent lambs that got me in touch with this sight. i really admire what they are doing.And i admire people who can idnetify themselfs and not fear.
Sometimes it takes a while to get "out". I personally have been in therapy for 14 years. I'm not sure if that is a world record:) Anyway, when i saw your into, i also thought i would intrduce myself.
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AwakenedAndFree
Dear Girtalking,
Welcome to the forum !
I'am sorry for what your are going through now. There are a lot of things I can relate to you - "I feel damaged" too by the distress the Watchtower inflicted on me for 4 years I was associated with them. I have been out for over a year now, but the pain still remains within me. I think I'am still going through the healing process now, and I hope the pain vanishes some day! I feel sorry for all of you who devoted your entire lives to this deceitful organization - my prayers go to you all.
Reading posts on this site helped me deal with my own grieving process. I felt compelled to share my own experience here on the forum , hoping it to be a good source of therapy to people. Thankfully, we understand what you are going through. Pray to God for help. Read the whole chapter of Ezekiel 34 - this Scripture provides me with great comfort daily ; and it shows us that Our Heavenly Creator does not abandon His Own.
Christian Love.
AwakenedAndFree
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Sentinel
Hi GirlTalking, and a big Welcome to you.
As you read through the many experiences here on the forum, your courage will improve. There is just no quick and easy formula to fix what took years for the borg to create.
Reaction to stimuli is one thing that causes any one of us to "perceive" things a certain way. We need to retrain the way we react.
Get lots of self-help, self improvement literature, and read, read, read. Then, day by day, little by little, change yourself by making application of knowledge in your life. You, and only you, can do this.
We all have different personalities and we are all different. JW's try so hard to make everyone too much alike. Normal human behaviors are judged harshly. Little by little you learned not to trust yourself or anyone else. Once you get that back, you will feel very impowered.
Love and Light,
Sentinel/Karen
my spelling is awful tonight.....
Edited by - Sentinel on 10 September 2002 19:31:54
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outnfree
At the moment I am finding it very hard to reconcile my thoughts and feel really screwed up inside. I am glad I,ve left but I feel emotionally damaged and very sad that I spent so many years in fear to live my life. I am so glad that I have found this board, I think this is what I need as I do need help to come to terms with being part of this controling organization.
Hi, Girltalking!
I could have written those very words about a year and a half ago. I'm still struggling to find myself, friends, and new interestes outside the JW cult, but I am very glad that like me, you are out and free.
The world outside is wonderful and good people abound (lots of them right here on this board). Don't feel guilty for leaving. Trust me that the Watchtower organization has NOTHING right about what the future will bring. You needn't live in fear any more: of sanctions, of gossip, or of Armageddon.
Welcome!
outnfree
And Welcome to Wednesday, too! (Were you an Addams Family fan?)
Edited by - outnfree on 10 September 2002 19:39:2
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Joyzabel
Welcome to all the newbies here:
Girltalking
TTboy
Darkhorse
Wednesday
AwakendedandFree
(((Girltalking))) relax and give yourself time to "deprogram". It took you awhile to become one of jws. now it will take awhile to not be one.
Like outnfree and freefalling, I've been reprogramming who I am for the past year and half. There is nothing wrong with the good experiences we had in the borg, you can always build on good morals and charater. But learn to just "be" is a journey of itself. So relax and enjoy the journey.
Hugs,
j2bf
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wednesday
Outnfree,
no i take my screename from the old childhood rhyme "wednesday's child is full of woe" because that is how i have felt for so long. I've been in therapy so long(14 yrs) that i may hold the record. The doc dx post tramatic stress disorder. I don't know anyjthing but jw thinking. I have tried to talk to my husband and he says"So what do u want to do-be a baptist-u know those people are corupt".I told him today that if it came to a life and death situation wih blood-i was going to save his life.My therapist is jewish and does not understand this at all. I still believe jehovah is God and pray to him. And i believe he helps me. I have no desire to join another religion. I still believe some of the basic doctries JW taught me. /Ther seems to be no place for me to "be". wednesday