Well, shyit....played my hand....

by Xander 10 Replies latest jw experiences

  • Xander
    Xander

    Hmmm....well, things should get interesting in a hurry.

    For those who don't know my story, the wife and I were born into the org. Raised in it, baptised, both very good publishers, pioneered, et al. I was one of those on the fast track for MS-hood. FWIW, the wife never really believed ALL their doctrines (IE, she always thought gays were okay, suicides WOULD be resurrected, god would make allowances for people who doubted based on their life experiances, etc.)

    I did.

    A number of things led us both to lose interest in the organization - for different reasons - and we drifted away a year or so ago. Never really been bothered by them since - we do live pretty far away from our congregation and have little contact with our family (except the wife's parents).

    In ANY case, just had an interesting conversation w/ my still-very-in bro. He's recently lost his job, and we've thus had some time to talk quite a bit lately. For some reason, he really pushed the whole 'why aren't you two attending meetings anymore' thing in this last conversation. REALLY. (It seems, in an interesting aside, that him and my mother were of the opinion I had a crazy wife who was leading me astray. While, on the other hand, the mother-, father-, and sister- in-laws were all convinced it was I who had the spirit of satan and was leading their daughter/sister away. Oh, teh funnAy!)

    So, he wouldn't let go. Fine. I'll throw him a bone. I mention....'Well, little thing called independant research' and go into some of the org's errors regarding dates (specifically the 607). Sadly, he bullshits very poorly. "Well, I'm looking at the recent article here in Scientific American where they say that they can prove the 607 date and that the 586 was a misunderstanding".

    Me: "Bullshit. You know it. I know it. I can search their website if you don't think I know it to prove no such article was written."

    Him: "Well, whether Jerusalem fell or not, Israel fell in 607 at least."

    Me: "Don't think so"

    Him: "Well, it doesn't really matter...."

    Anyway, with dialog of such intelligence and him artificing sources from which to defend his beliefs, it was slow going. One thing led to another, and I blasted through the whole UN thing, pedophile coverups (he did see the Dateline program, but had been told every single person on it had been an apostate for at least 25 years! - of course, he said it was by the bro reading the letter, and, as I mentioned, he has a problem with honesty when he is challenged, so I cannot put any faith in this statement at all), early org mistakes/stupidisms, errors in teachings, etc.

    So....uhhh....I dunno what's going to happen now. He got cut off because his wife came home and he has to go to the meeting tonight. Him and mom and the wife's parents go to the same hall (the one we transferred out of to the distant K.H.), and she hasn't talked to us in a while. I may be getting a number of interesting calls tonight.

    Edited by - Xander on 10 September 2002 18:40:7

  • Sentinel
    Sentinel

    DON'T WORRY

    BE HAPPY

    (The truth about the "truth" has already set you FREE! They really can't hurt you anymore, unless you allow them the power.)

    Sentinel

  • Xander
    Xander

    Actually, my wife rather wants to play with her neice and nephew still, who happen to be part of a very JW family, so....

  • outnfree
    outnfree

    ((((((Xander)))))),

    Hope everything works out for the best.

    It was interesting that your brother would resort to false sources to shore up the WT teachings. When a JW knows s/he is lying in defense of Dub doctrines, how does that person reconcile their own faith with the lies? I never got that. Once I was aware of the lies, I realized the religion was nothing more than a house of cards waiting to be blown over.

    outnfree

  • Xander
    Xander

    When a JW knows s/he is lying in defense of Dub doctrines

    Sadly, not really a dub-ism there. At least, I think not. He's always been inclined that way. My guess is his time as an Asst Mgr at a few tech stores has reinforced that - it's more important to SOUND like you know what you're talking about than to actually KNOW what you're talking about.

    He does this with everything - not just JW teachings. And, yes, it seems he can convince himself he has won an argument even if he knows he has used no facts to back up his claims - hence why I must call him on all fabrications. Otherwise, he'd actually start to believe them.

    Yeah, it's weird.

  • Xander
    Xander

    Kind of on the same vein - he kept returning to the 'Well, yeah, so maybe they are imperfect, but who else is closer to the teachings of god as found in the bible?'

    I honestly have not payed much attention to unbiblical JW teachings, since I don't hold the bible as a reliable source myself.

    Anyone have a few really knockout obvious teaching in the N.T. that the JWs don't follow? Or those they should that they don't?

    Secondly, every time I pointed out a scandal/stupidism (IE., aluminum as satan's metal other early idiocies, membership in UN, pedophile coverups), he'd always dismiss them as 'human error - but since the end could possibly be next week, all that matters is how god's organization is RIGHT NOW - not a member of the UN, not covering up pedophiles (they got the letter), not practicing quack science, etc.'

    So, what else I could use are:

    Examples of current JW scandals / scientifically untenable positions / etc.

    Thoughts?

  • Scarlet
    Scarlet

    Xander, I think you and your wife and your families mirrors me and Random Tasks families. Except my family thinks I took Random from the truth. His family thinks he took me away. The only good thing is his family has stopped going now.

    My brother though is exactly like your brother. He will make things up and when you call him on it he says I don't care. I won this argument. You just sit there dumb founded by the stupidity. You don't know what to say. I wish I could help you but I haven't figured out how to argue with my brother. Maybe someone out there can give us both advice.

  • Trauma_Hound
    Trauma_Hound
    every single person on it had been an apostate for at least 25 years!

    That's interesting I thought some of the people were young, like in they're 20's, so they've been apostates since they were kids? LOL

  • Xander
    Xander

    so they've been apostates since they were kids

    Or before they were born?

    Yeah, well, I pointed that out. In any case, we didn't get any calls last night after their meeting. Not sure what that means? I almost wish he would have called back to continue the conversation.

    BTW, anybody have any comments on my two questions above?

  • Oroborus21
    Oroborus21

    Funny i subscribe to Scientific American and I don't remember reading that article and I just finished this month's issue.

    eduardo

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