We visited the assembly hall today!

Golden Girl

Continued from my post about Hubby having cancer.

We talked to the Dr that is going to install his porta vein for the chemo he is going to get.He mentioned special papers he will have to sign because of the "No Blood".

Well hubby freaked out. He called the JW laison committee and they were working at he assembley hall around the corner from us. Well I decided to go with him and find out what would happen if I went with him to the meetings to help him.They wouldn't give me an answer. They said the "Brothers" at his hall would have to talk to me.

Then Hubby confessed that his Mom and Sister already talked to the 'Brothers" and they said I would have to sit in back...come in after the song started..but relatives could sit by me! I am disassociated.

Well..getting back to the assembly hall..they were so stuck up to us when we first got there and after we started talking..they realized we knew "certain people"from a long time ago and got all friendly!

I couldn't stand it. It all started to come back to me! All the haughtiness ...The I'm God attitude!.I wanted to run out or start telling them how awful their religion was!

Hubby wanted to show off the assembley hall to me . He was so proud of it. I was afraid he was going to strap me to a chair! He had tears in his eyes ..he was so happy to have me there!

Then I broke his heart!I told him I couldn't fake it! I would take him if he got weak from chemo but I couldn't believe like he did. He started to really cry and said I was killing him!

He wanted some hope that we would be together again someday if he didn't make it through this cancer! Because I made him sad it affects his fighting the cancer!...It isn't fair!

I am still wondering what to do...I love him so...But would he be satisfied with me just being there or would he start to expect me to try and come back?

Too much to think about...too much .

I can't wait to see his Chemo Dr Wednesday and find out about support groups. I need one bad!

Golden Girl...aka ..Snoozy

ps...his JW mother and Jw sister will be staying with us during his first time with the treatments!

I will be put on a big time guilt trip!They have also sent him some juice that is called Noni juice that is supposed to "Cure Cancer". I don't believe it but he does!

He believes the JW's have the "Truth" because his Mom and sister and Dad were one. He believes this juice will cure his cancer because his Mom and sister said it will!.I can't argue with him about it because then he won't have any hope!I read that mind over matter can cure many things...so I am going to keep my mouth shut from now on! If he believes a marshmellow can cure him...so be it!

Golden Girl..aka Snoozy...Who hopes she never has to step inside a KH again!

And they told him to go to the KH Sunday and get a DPA form . It is a Durable Power of Attorney for when he gets the porta vein put in. This assures him they won't use blood!

Edited by - Golden Girl on 14 September 2002 1:51:32

RandomTask

You can be there and you don't have to believe it. You already know how they are and how they act, it will be the same whether you are there or not. Just put their bull out of your mind, let it flow through you like a cool summer breeze through a screen door. You are there for one reason and one reason only, your husband.

Once they aren't able to affect you then they have lost their power over you. They are hurting your relationship right now with their actions, are you going to let them have this power over you? You are the one in charge here, you can choose to not be affected, it starts when you say to yourself, "I don't care what they say" and it ends when you actually believe it. Disassociated or not, The Jehovah's Witnesses still have your soul, get it back!

Xandria

Make sure the DPA doesn't limit you as his wife..!!!! Or worse cut you out entirely. Get legal advice and definately join a support group.

((HUGS I know you are going through a rough time))

Xandria

Vivamus

Honey, I know exactly how you feel but you are missing one point here. You are in control! whether you step into that KH or not, it is YOUR decision. The elders have NO control over you. You saw that religion and what is stands for, for exactly what it was, a false religion. They can make you sit in the back, they can tell you not to speak up in the Hall, but they cannot tell you what to think, they cannot tell you how to love. Your mind is free, unlike the mind of your husband and his mother and sister. Don't forget this Snoozy. Treasure the last moments you have with your husband, don't let the petty rules of some men get between you and your husband. You are above them.

((((Snoozy))))

Flip

They have also sent him some juice that is called Noni juice that is supposed to "Cure Cancer". I don't believe it but he does!

GG, click the link and look about a third of the way down, under the heading Noni Juice Nonsense http://www.tcms.org/magazines/0201.html

Whole life insurance, Amyway riches, Noni Juice, the Watchtower Corporation ... is it just me or is there a pattern here.

COMF

Ted Jaracz, on television camera: "Jehovah's Witnesses do not go beyond the things written."

they said I would have to sit in back

I'm gonna need a scripture on that.

happy man

hello golden girl.

Sorry to here bout you hubby, in our con we have a mean in my age who also have cancer and the doctos tell him he wil not live so long, but he go to germany and heve special treatment, and he is still living, despite what the doctors say, I think if you are extemly lucky, you can find some diffrent thing who help.

And then it sounds too mee he is an extremly nice person, my advice to you, is too ask fore a talk to the boss in the cong, and explain the situation fore him, that you want to stand by your hubu, and therfore you going attend the meting, if he have some hart he will say yes, and HE CAN NOT TELL YOU WHER TO SITT.

give him warmregards from his brother in sweden.

ugg

hugs and more hugs to you!!!!! do not let the rules keep you from making him happy...if you do,,,

in the end you will be the loser....it will definately come back to haunt you,,,and the borg will have

won again,,,,his mental status will play a big part in how he is going to endure...do every thing

possible to make him happy,,,,when he is gone,,,that will be of great comfort to you...cherish the

time you have with him,,,,you won't get a second chance....

Francois

What kind of cancer are we talking about here? The Noni Juice reference makes be suspect melanoma. If so, or if not, try www.mpip.org, especially the bulletin board where you can get just about any question answered.

francois

outnfree

(((((((((Golden Girl))))))))))))),

How very difficult!

I had not seen your first post, but have now read it, too. I am sorry about the cancer. Chemo will be rough, no mistake about that, but my cousin went through a series of treatments for her stage 4 non-hodgkins lymphoma about 2-1/2 years ago and is still with us. A strong will to live has helped her tremendously.

About the meetings? I'm wondering if you were a guy would all these posters be telling you to be supportive in the same way -- i.e., putting aside your disbelief and dislike of the WT after being DA'd for HOW many years??!!! -- to support your spouse by attending JW meetings. Or would they not expect the same of a man because men are not supposed to be 'nurturers'?

Nonetheless, you ARE a woman, a caring woman, and you likely will feel regret if you don't go with him to the KH at least once in a while. However, I think you are fooling yourself if you think your husband's objective isn't to get you to believe again so you two can be together in paradise. If you're a talented actress, go for it and ease his mind. Afterwards, if there is a heaven, he will know that the JW take on the future is wrong -- (perhaps his spirit will even come back and let you know? At any rate, his spirit will know you loved him enough to lie.)

Whatever you decide, know that we're here to listen and hug.

out

We visited the assembly hall today!

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