She is dying

by Vivamus 46 Replies latest jw friends

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  Country Girl

  Dear Vivamus:

  Just hold her hand and convey through that gentle touch that you are there and that you love her very much. She will know what you mean. I lost my dear sweet Grandmother two years ago, and I still miss her love and presence very much, yet I know she is in a good place, as she was a dear, loving soul. I believe that even though people lose the ability to talk or move, that emotions are conveyed through the eyes. She knows you are there, and I'm sure that she is very happy for that. I am sorry for how bad you feel.. but remember that when you are there, she is comforted and more happy; you give her strength and confidence that everything will be alright. You can make what is left more fulfilling by being there and holding her, and loving her. That is a small thing to ask for someone you love so much. I know it is sad to lose a very loved one, but it is life's inevitability that demands this. We can only hope that all of our loved ones pass with knowing how much love they have. Be there with her and be strong for her now... I know you are dying on the inside, as I once was, but it made everything so much better just to be with her and talk to her and hold her hand. I will be thinking of you...

  Country Girl
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  QUEENIE

  ((((((((((((((VIV)))))))))Sympathies and Empathy too from LISA / LINDA and Mamie kitty
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  SYN

  Viv, you've got mail!
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  AwakenedAndFree

  Dear Vivamus,

  I'am sorry that your dear grandma is critically ill battling cancer.

  1 Corinthians 13:13: " Now, however, there remain faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love."

  Love her dearly while she is here with you.

  Christian Love.

  AwakenedAndFree
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  jack2

  Viv, you are a terrific grandaughter!!

  I wish there was more I could do to help. What you are doing for her is immeasurable....holding her hand, assuring her of your love; as you said, love is what matters most.

  ((((((((((Viv)))))))))
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  Vivamus

  Thank you all for your kind words, it helps.

  The last few days, she has grown weaker and weaker. It scares me, the inevitable is coming faster than I anticipated.
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  Mimilly

  ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Vivamus)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

  Thinking of you hon. Alot.

  Mim
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  DakotaRed

  ((((((Vivamus))))))

  How sad that a life should end with such pain. Hang in there, though and offer her all the love you can. Feel free to vent all you need to.

  Lew W
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  Preston

  (((Viv and Grandma)))

  I have nothing to say...
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  Sentinel

  Viv,

  I am so sorry to hear of your grandmother's illness. I lost all four of my grandparents to cancer. It just ate them up and took their bodies. The feelings of inability to change it or stop it, or anything is so frustrating. You have no control. It's a matter of time.

  Try to help her know that you will be alright. That you understand that she must go, and help her to feel that you will survive her loss, but will always remember her. Mention to her some of the things that you remember, special times, remind her of how she has been a positive influence on your life. That's all you can do. Sometimes, people that are dying just can't let go. They feel like they must keep holding on for their family. But, the loving thing is to let her know that's it's alright for her to go. Talk to her and let her know that you love her and will miss her, but that you will be alright. That she can close her eyes and rest, and go to sleep, and dream of beautiful things. Plant a vision in her mind of some pleasant place and talk to her about it in great detail. Think of it that way.

  Memories of our beloved ones carry us through. The memories never die, and are passed from generation to generation.

  My heart is with you. (((((((((((hugs)))))))))

  Sentinel/Karen