I have always thought that the WTS was wasting some of their best talent by keeping us sisters 'in our place'. As to organizing car groups, the best service group leaders would get out of the way and let the sisters do it, saying that those who needed help should come forward and he would help them. That worked well. I really hated it when the CO would come, and insist on arranging car groups personally. He never knew the personal dynamics of the various people, who preferred to go with whom, who couldn't stand to be in the same group with whom, who wouldn't talk at the door and so had to be placed with someone more outgoing, etc. It invariably created unpleasant situations.
Personally, I never had any desire to have a position of responsibility in the cong. Even the Ministry School was more than I would have done by choice, as I hate being on stage, but I did it because I was supposed to. Still, I think there was always a buried kernel of resentment knowing that I was a second class servant of Jehovah, by virtue of my gender.
For the most part, I and other sisters in our cong, tried to view those young brothers who had to take charge in a motherly fashion, as if we were contributing our part in their development towards their spiritual progress as a man 'reaching out'. My son's were baptized at a very young age, and they went through this. The sisters would just smile and say how well they were doing, while at the same time being glad there was a male of some kind present, so one of them wouldn't have to put a napkin on her head and read the text to the rest of us. Really, any way you look at it, adherence to these silly procedures was ridiculous.
One thing a friend and I used to comfort ourselves with was the idea that if the Bible hadn't said that only the men could have congregational teaching and leadership duties, then most likely, we sisters would have ended up DOING IT ALL, and who wanted that!.
truman