Now I'm REALLY mad!!!

Lin

As most of you know, I am getting married next May. Don't worry,
that's not my problem. LOL What IS my problem has to do with my
nineteen year old daughter Melanie and my 21 year old son Andre.
Andre is about to be released from Juvi-jail on October 1st, and is
apparently being bused to Dallas and dropped off with supposedly no
where to go. (No, he can't come stay with me, and he wouldn't want
to anyway). Let me set the scene for those of you who don't know me
yet:

Andre has been serving over four years (minimum of three from a
twenty year sentence) for molesting my youngest daughter when she
was little. Andre was sodomized numerous times by a M.S. when we
lived in Chicago when he was in second grade. Andre admitted guilt
to Melanie (they have always been very close) right in front of me
during one of my visits to see him in jail. Even after admitting it
to Melanie, she still to this day says it was all just a big
misunderstanding and it didn't really happen the way it was claimed,
etc. Blah blah blah. So anyway.....Andre has always been a HUGE liar
and master manipulator, and I simply don't trust him anymore.

Okay, Andre is getting out on October 1st. He cannot go live with
his father in Chicago because his victim now lives with her dad. So,
parole restrictions require him to stay in Dallas, get a job, get an
apartment, etc. I had been told way back when that when he got out,
he'd be transferred to a halfway house, but somehow that's all
changed. I've tried to get answers, but no one returns my calls.
Anyway, Andre called Melanie in Chicago and asked her to talk to my
neice Jesika (you all know her here) and ask Jesika if Andre could
stay with her for a "couple months" while he gets work, apartment,
etc. Melanie includes in the email to Jesika and I quote.."Do not
tell my mom about this email". And, she had the nerve to tell
Jesika "If you love me, you'll do this". If you love me?!!!!!!! I've
got smoke coming out of my ears!!!!! Melanie has made no attempt to
contact Jesika for a long time now, but suddenly she needs something
and Boom the attempted guilt trip on Jesika. Plus!!!! Melanie is one
of my Bridesmaids in my upcoming wedding!!! Don't tell my mom about
this email?!!!! Melanie told Jesika in the email that she and a
friend of hers are making a "road trip" right at the time Andre gets
out of jail to visit him. "Don't tell my mom about this email" tells
me, and please correct me if I'm wrong, but Melanie intends to come
down here on the sly, visit Andre while here in town, and not so
much as even let me know she's coming or wants to see me or can she
stay with me while she's here, etc? Do I seem angry?! I am!

I feel betrayed. I don't have a problem at all that she feels close
to her brother and wants to help him, but for her to try to do all
this on the sly and purposely ask Jesika not to tell me, I smell a
rat! It honestly makes me question if I want her in my wedding.

Okay, I've vented. Smoke is still fuming, but I'm done venting.

Lin If I could figure out the dang emicons, they'd be smokin!!!!!!!

LB

One of my sons did a lot of time in juvi-jail. It helped prepare him for adult jail. But I'm not surprised he's a liar. My son to this day is a great liar. And manipulator. Help Melanie to see that he's playing games already.

I would think his probation officer will enjoy a copy of that e-mail.

Big Tex

Lin,

I'm really sorry for your situation. That sounds like its really tough on you. I would think that Andre would have access to some sort of halfway house. Is it possible to check with the state on this? As for the emoticons, how;s this one:

WildHorses

Maybe Jesika could ask her why she doesn't want you to know?

As far as the emotions........just put [ ] around the :) or ;) or :D and you got it.

BTW, the pic you sent in the e-mail didn't show up. I posted this in another post but I guess you didn't see it.

Lin

Thanks BigTex! That would be me! Fumin, smoke is a-blowin! I have tried and tried to contac the officials, even the District Attorny who prosecuted the case, but no one has returned my many messages. I don't know how to find out who his parole officer is either, Andre told the people at the jail not to give me any information and since he's 21 now, they don't HAVE to. Argh!!!!!

Jesika sent Melanie a great response.....like, no. Plus a few other choice words. Melanie's audacity!

LB, I wish I felt that were possible anymore. I've tried having calm, rational conversations with her about her brother, but she quickly becomes irate and won't talk anymore, or listen for that matter. She feels I'm way too hard on him, that I don't really know him, blah blah blah. She's in for a very rude awakening I'm afraid one of these days.

Jesika

Lin,

Girl I was mad too!!!!!!!!!!!! The whole "If you love me don't do tell my mom". IF YOU LOVE ME??????????????? What kind of S**T is that???????? Boy, I sure let her have it in that email I sent back. I don't think I will see or hear from her anytime soon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I erased the email after I sent you a copy. You can post it if you want, I would have but I didn't know you were gonna post this. Damn, I wish I had it so I could post it now.

Jes

Lin

Jesika's reply to Melanie:

First, I want to say that I am very disappointed in the way you have worded this email to me, being that YOU need MY help. I wouldn't tell someone if they love me don't do such and such. The case is if you loved me--1 this is the only time I have heard from you and it is because you NEED something from me--2 You would not use guilt to get what you want from me--3 I have known he is getting out and why he is restricted to TX.

I am not a child and don't expect or accept to be talked to by my YOUNGER cousin as if I was a child. I know your mom has not told you about me cause I talk to her almost daily. So, you also have lied to me to make things even better.

The fact that he has no where to go isn't my problem and he has not shown me anything to prove that he has changed or even sorry for what he has done--something he has admitted to doing. I have a 3yr old little girl who lives in the same house as I do, and wouldn't let him stay even if I could.

I understand he is your brother and you love him, but he is Heather's brother too, and he has damaged her for the rest of her life!!!!!!!!!!

I am sure there are shelter programs he can look into, and if it will only be a couple months for him to get his own place than that shouldn't be a prob for him. I honestly don't think he will be gunho about getting a job right when he gets out. I think he will want to go out and play for a while since he has been locked up for this long.

If you truely love me, then you will keep in touch no matter what my stand on this is. I love you unconditionally and my other cousins as well, but this doesn't mean I like them all. I would never ask you to do something for me if you loved me and I don't want you to ask me something with that stipulation. You need to be adult about this and not run behind people's backs, cause in the end, you will be the fool. By the way, your mom isn't as dumb as you think--just take my word for it.

Have you told your mom you are coming to visit??? Oh, I just got off the phone with Charice--don't even bother asking her. The answer will be no.

Hope to see you--Although I doubt you have read this in it's entirety.

Jesika

Thanx Lin

I am shocked that I didnt use one single cuss word!!!!!!!!!! LOL

Lin

Yeah me too Jes! You've got some I've never heard of before! LOL

TTBoy

Lin - it took a couple of reads to understand the situation. My borther has 3 felony warrants against him for selling drugs. He's sitting in jail as I speak. The rest of my immediate family are JW, so you can sort-of-understand (totally different than abuse, but in the same way it is very serious) how I felt telling them about that. His warrants were issued 2 years ago. He never asked me to not tell my parents/sister/brother - but I did end up telling them last week.

I don't know if that has helped at all.

TT

Now I'm REALLY mad!!!

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