Would you throw a pebble at a boulder

kenpodragon

In my contact with my witness family I am often confronted with several subjects that make me want to bite my lip and say to myself "don't bother!" as I realize they would never listen to my thoughts anyway. You don't have to be a free mind for long to know what I am saying, when they preach to others in front of you or try to sound all righteous by saying a thought from their belief system.

What my minor life time in the religion taught me, was how annoying and rude it was to put down others beliefs to raise ourselves above them. As we raise ourselves in our own mind, but lower ourselves in theirs. So to keep a balance, I have learned in my life's "wisdom" to keep quite and smile and not worry about trying to "throw a pebble to break their boulder" of beliefs.

The boulder is not easily moved, as it is very deep in the earth and nothing will move it without some serious effort. Interesting thing about boulders though, they are open to natures power and nature will on it's own throw many things at them that have a natural erosion. The wind, the water and other forms of natural power work them down and make them smaller. Then of course, we end up with earthquakes that take these boulders out of place and they role away.

So although, we are not going to cause any damage on our own, or at least damage that moves it, there is plenty going on in this world that will move them in time. So when I deal with my family that are Witnesses, I am not their to change them. I am their to "love" them and sit on that bolder for awhile and share a thought about history, other family members, or even just life concerns. I respect that boulder and realize it is their, and just wait to see if in time it will role away like I did. While loving it for where it is still, and not judging it anymore then I would want to be judged. I do notice though, as the year go by that it has developed chips in it, that were not their before, and it seems less likely and capable to repair itself.

So like I said before, the value of my time with my family is not based on moving or destroying the boulder, but rather on simply accepting it and moving on, happy that I can still view it for what it is.

My thought

Dragon

Beck_Melbourne

Good post...and very close to home for me. My JW mother still preaches her joho rubbish from time to time....it is her sad attempt at trying to be superior over her apostate children and other worldlies....but we see right through it. Actually....we all regard her as a bit of a nutta now...we had to exit the JW to come to that conclusion. I do not think ALL JW's are nuttas mind you, only my mother LOL.

As for us, when the boulder in our family starts to grumble, we find ourselves biting the lip resisting the temptation to put her in her place...but what would that prove?? She doesn't want to hear our views, as she has been trained to only share her own, and not listen to others. And so we do what sensible people do, we change the subject. Her ramblings get no attention...and no reaction. My apostate brother sometimes likes to razz her up a bit...but he's over doing that now (at least I think he is LOL) I know I am....usually we roll our eyes, raise our eyebrow with a frown of disapproval and then move on to more upbuilding things like how much for a cup of coffee these days

~Beck~

alamb

The boulder is cracked. We can only be there for support when the sand shifts....and it does...on it's own.

DJ

Yup, most of the time I bite my tongue as well. There are times though, when the timing is perfect not to throw a stone but to plant a thought. Rome wasn't built in a day. I will never just give up. I see just how unhappy they are with the fear that darkens their walk. I hear the sighs when they look at the clock, realizing that it's time to put on the good clothes and drive to the hall. I see the pain in their faces when their grandchild happily exclaims, "Happy Mother's Day Grandma!" I see the fear on my mother's face when the oncologist tells her that my father's chemo treatments may cause him to need a forbidden blood fraction. I see too much pain and frustration in my parent's eyes to ever just give up. Dj

Prisca

Good post.

pharisee

I think the best pebble's you can throw is by succeding in your personal and/or family life without the borg. They expect you to completly fall apart without their guidance, and when you show that you are stable without them it starts to put doubts in their minds.

A Paduan

It 's suprising what you can achieve with water, fire, iron and wood. Ever dig rock for a job? It seems like your just getting nowhere at first, but then when you find the seams, it splits with a beautiful sound. A useful method is to make a fissure by incessantly working the one spot - eventually you can get something in there and away you go.

paduan

Edited by - a paduan on 6 October 2002 5:49:39

pomegranate

God likes to use pebbles to humble "boulders."

Look! See! The pebble named Bill Bowen.

PS. Actually, the WTS is not really a boulder at all...just a bunch of stuck together grains of sand.

Edited by - pomegranate on 6 October 2002 8:26:36

LovesDubs

Ask David what difference a small stone could make against somebody like Goliath?

bigfloppydog

Wow, never thought of it that way, good post. Food for thought.

Sometimes the pain is just so intense and in front of us, we don't think clearly about such things.

Thanx for sharing your thoughts.

Would you throw a pebble at a boulder

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