Thoughtful post! I don't always keep quiet, but I am more judicious on what I say and when. When I started, I had no idea how entrenched the WT mindset is, or how hard it is to dislodge. After much reflection, and a few failed attempts to turn my honey around, my goal is clear. I do not want to rile my honey for entertainment's sake, which is darn easy to do. I want to nudge my honey in the right direction. I want him to think for himself. I want to plant seeds of doubt, while keeping his esteem intact.
"I am so proud of your desire to learn, to study. Let's look that scripture up in context."
"Too bad you can't, in good conscience, attend Thanksgiving dinner. But you must stay true to your beliefs. Sigh. I will tell you all about it afterwards."