by pharisee 27 Replies latest jw friends
WELCOME Pharisee!
Just like you, I searched for truth because I needed to be sure what to teach my kids. When your heart is so full of desire for the real truth it makes it impossible to believe the witnesses. Do you feel that you have found the real truth? I do! Love, Dj FREEEEEE!
Gumby,
You want to know what I've found? Where do you start?
For one I found that I thought I was growing up in religion that was going to solve all of my future problems, and give me direction on how to live my life, and purpose to my life. Then I found out that I actually grew up in a cult, and that almost everything I had been told was a lie. I found that I it was a high level mind control group, and that I would have to de-program myself so that I did not feel guilty every time I did or felt something that was against what I was told was a "sin".
Just for starters.
welcome pharisee!
SPAZ
Hi DJ,
Good for you and you kids.
You have found the "real" truth, great, I hope your right, and it works for you.
I am still searching, and do not expect to find it soon. I think the "real" truth is a very difficult thing to positively identify. "Give me a sign, God dam* it". (sorry for the curse, but it is frustrating).
I don't want to hijack your thread, but briefly: I was a JW for 28 years. I was raised in an incestous family and when I was an adult, I pointed out to the elders the atrocities my father and others had committed against me. Naturally the 2 witness rule came into play. I left and my father is still a ministerial servant in good standing. In fact he recently had a circuit assembly part on how to be a good JW family (or some such asinine title). But I count myself lucky. I got out and now I'm free.
I know what you mean about being 100% sure regarding your children though. I'm married and have 2 kids of my own. I let my wife take them to meetings until she finally made the choice to leave. I believe that with the Witnesses, either the children will grow up to be hurt by the Witnesses or they'll grow up to be just like them. Either choice was repugnant to me.
Sorry. I didn't mean to go on this long (briefly?). So how about you? What's your story? Were you raised a JW? Or did you make the mistake, like me, and come in on your own?
Peace,
Chris
Tex,
I was raised a JW as you can see from my previous post. At some point I may post my story, but I am happy to talk about certain parts for now.
I am very sorry to here about you and your father, and the sad thing is its so common and typical as a JW story.
We were very lucky to be one of the few families in our hall not affected by child abuse. I think people were scared my father would "castrate" them if they got caught fooling with any of us kids, so we were left alone.
Im glad you have "moved on" from this abuse.
WELCOME PHARISEE
i've just been posting since july, and have found much validation and help in coming to grips with my JW experience here on this forum. even though by the time i left i knew they didn't have the truth---it was still a loss and i had to come to grips with what the hell happened to my life. but the FREEDOM has been worth it. i can still remember and even now get a kick outta being "free" from all that guilt they heap on you. i found out that i didn't "go back to my vomit" like they say and i even like and love myself a whole lot more than i ever did with them.
WELCOME
sisteract
Hi Sisteract,
You are so correct!
I was talking about the same subject on another thread.
Its called: Would you throw a pebble at a boulder? Talking about how to break through to a "mind trapped" JW.
I said:
I think the best pebble's you can throw is by succeding in your personal and/or family life without the borg. They expect you to completly fall apart without their guidance, and when you show that you are stable without them it starts to put doubts in their minds.
