Our Lives Are Worthless

Undecided

I've been in a strange mood lately. I keep thinking what difference does anything matter. In a few years we will all be dead anyway and anything we did won't amount to anything. I guess I've been looking at the pictures that my mother left when she died too much lately. Almost all the ones in those pictures are dead now and I am heading down that path too fast.

The kids born now will just have to suffer through all the heart ache, war, sickness, struggling to make a living and then die.

Damn, I need to change to a different reality, but that is reality. It's very depressing. I can understand why some resort to mind clouding drugs and alcohol to try to stamp out reality, but that just makes things worse.

Could someone convince me this is not true? I need a hope for some future but the more I examine religion the more I realize it is evil and has caused humanity untold grief in so many ways.

I guess I need to take each day and find some pleasure and happiness and to hell with tomorrow.

Sorry for pointing out the down side of life.

Ken P.

kelsey007

Undecided- with all the losses I have had in recent years I have often felt the same way. I keep myself going, however, by remembering that life is a precious gift. We must enjoy this moment and remember that we all have a great impact on the lives and futures of others. Look at the stars, get out and enjoy nature. Enjoy a pet. Take a walk. Be nice to someone- Hold the door open for someone- tell a stranger to have a good day or tell them they look good today- thier reaction will renew your lease on life!

Edited by - kelsey007 on 9 October 2002 22:42:27

FreePeace

Hi Ken,

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I know how it can be. The only advice I can offer is that life is only worthless if you decide it is. For many people, life is not worthless, even though we die.

When I left the bORG, I felt that everything was futile... I felt that life's return on investment was not good enough.

Even though I would change many things in the world for the better, I know I cannot. But I can change me, and possibly help others--one at a time--so that I "leave the woodpile a little higher than I found it."

What you have expressed is the very thing that prompted me to write my book (dare I mention it in view of the ass-whipping I got before?). I would love to send you a copy if you are interested. It might help. Just e-mail me your address, [email protected].

Hang in there, things will look differently as time passes. I wish you my very best!

Doug

onacruse

"I guess I need to take each day and find some pleasure and happiness and to hell with tomorrow."

I agree, and that's exactly what I am doing more of, and more deliberately. Not to be an Epicurean or hedonist, but I've spent so much of my life anticipating the (JW) future, I forgot (never learned) how to enjoy life each day, just for it's own sake.

If this life IS all there is, then I intend to enjoy it as best I can for the rest of my life. If this life is NOT all there is, well then, my hopes for a happy future need to be based on the happy life I can live now.

Craig

blondie

Ken,

Having grown up in an abusive family, there were days that life seemed without purpose or future.

The key I found is to live life a day at a time, a moment at a time if necessary, and to make it count for me and for others. Growing up, I always try to find one thing that was positive, even if it was only that I was not alone, that I had my brother.

Now, I am grateful for what I have, not what I had and lost through no fault of my own.

After being told I couldn't have children, I had a good long cry. Now I work to help other people's children, some without parents or loving parents.

I always have a garden with vegetables and flowers. After a long hard day, I go out and pull the weeds, pick flowers for a boquet, and pick the beans for dinner.

Ken, your posts have revealed you have many things to be thankful for and that you do appreciate them and share some of them with us.

I have to admit that I feel sad that I can't do more for those in countries that lack the bounty of the United States. I do have my charities but I do despair sometimes.

Thanks for your post.

Blondie

Mimilly

(((((((((((((((((Undecided)))))))))))))))))

I've gone through the motions of those exact thoughts. Think of the size of the universe, the extent of time and our lives inevitably become miniscule. Now, during these 'miniscule' lives, we see torture, famine, disease, murder, suffering and we end up wondering 'why bother?'

Our lives aren't worthless unless we want them to be. Perhaps you've been thinking too much on religion or watching too much news. You need to change your focus to see the good things. Look at your children, grandchildren, wife, friends, pets...... all the good moments make life worthwhile.

Eat your favorite food, go for a walk on a scenic path; write down all the times you laughed; remember all the times you made a difference just by hugging someone.

This is our reality. We can't change the world, but we can affect those around us for better. Having doubts and dark moments doesn't make our lives worthless - it makes us human. What would you say if someone close to you came to you and stated what you said above? Practice what you'd preach at that moment

sending you warm sunbeams,

Mimilly

Brummie

Undecided

This is your moment of reflection, by going through this phase you will begin to look for a brighter outlook on life and you will find it. When looking at those photo's remember those are the people that made your life happier and you can reflect on the good times they gave you and you will remember that life is worth its moments of joy. They lived so you would have a life, they wanted you to have a happy life. Just as they made your life happier you too will make other peoples lives happier, what you have to give is not worthless. They would say the same thing if they were here today.

Life is a learning curve, you will learn a lot in your current frame of mind, and we all learn a lot from your voicing how you feel. We have felt the same way in the past and have found a new outlook so take heart, its a passing phase.

Brummie

musky

Cheer up now! If i force myself to only think good thoughts, then i will feel better. I find its hard as hell to do that though. I have recently found enjoyment in fishing for salmon . I found a great spot on the way home from work. Keeps my mind off things.

Elsewhere

Undecided,

You are absolutely right.... because of this it is soooo important for everyone to make the best of this short life we have. Be kind to each other... love each other...

I believe in life BEFORE death.

Undecided

Thanks for all the comments, some very good advice given. I'm just in a bad mood today, my wife is depressed and was crying today, my daughter(mother of Emily) has to have an operation soon, my son can't work because of a back injury, same for my brother-in-law, money problems all around, the news of someone randomly shooting people, the remains of the little girl from Virginia found near here and on and on it goes. I can usually take it pretty good but it got to me today. I'm going to try and find something good tomorrow and dwell on that.

Ken P.

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