Last fall my wife was in a friends wedding. My wife was helping out a lot, and thus we spent a lot of time at the Bride's house. One night we were at the home with the Bride and Groom and two of the bridesmaids and their husbands. My wife wanted to try on her bridesmaid dress and the other woman did too, to check for alterations. Everyone was having fun and joking around, and the woman went into the back room and changed. A few minutes went by and they came out and modeled them for us. They were really nice looking. I told my wife she looked nice and they started marking for a few alterations. The other bridesmaid came out and was laughing and smiling as we told her she was looking good too. She then went over to her husband and asked what he thought. He looked up, did a quick glance and said "it makes you butt look big!" and then laughed at his little comment. The room went silent, the woman walked back to the room changed and came back out and wanted to go home. They did and nothing felt right all night long after that.
Have you ever had something like this happen? Where everyone is having fun talking and chatting, sharing stories and events. When someone comes along and just makes the most negative hateful comment you could ever imagine. I have seen it happen at family gathers, parties and even in chat rooms. The thing is, when I spoke to the man later and asked him why he made such a comment. He said, "well I thought it did and I wanted to tell her." You see he felt what he was doing was improving the situation and not hurting it. I call this kind of person, "A person without a clue." Because why would you ever think that making a negative comment would benefit anyone?
I think of it like a wave at sea. If you have ever surfed, then you will know that sometimes you will wait out there for hours for the perfect wave. When it is coming, you will see all the other surfers paddling to get on. Then you get on and ride, and it is a high like you could never imagine. Everyone that rides the wave will get to the end and be all saying, "that was awesome" and "let's do it again." Yet each time there is always one person who let it pass them by, sitting our there going "what?" So to me, when you are having a good time, and the conversation is going great and people want to get along. Why not take the logical step to jump in and "catch the wave" and not sit back and ruin it for the rest of us.
Now some might ask, what ever happened to this couple from last year? Well the man and woman are separated now, and the woman is with a man who likes to enjoy life. The man, as far as I know, does nothing but sit at home mopping about and doing nothing. Basically, people tend to find in time that they do not want to spend their life with the "wave crashers" and would rather spend their time with the "wave riders." So if you really want to benefit from life and feel good around others, learn the phrase "If you have nothing good to say, don't say anything at all" and listen to the Beach Boys, and ...
"Catch a wave and your sitting on top of the world"
My thought
Dragon
Edited by - kenpodragon on 12 October 2002 2:2:39