by Englishman 14 Replies latest jw friends
Some people are just rotten, JW or no.
My family, even b4 leaving the witnesses, would never have shunned me. We just don't work that way.
I think it all has to do with family history...if it is strong enough, and if the parents are free-thinkers enough, then everything could stay ok when people are DF'd, but I knew some parents who just hated their kids, and couldn't wait to have an excuse to shun them. It's sad, and I don't understand it myself.
ash
E-man, Great post. That is one of the things that made me the most upset about the org. I have 6 children and even though they can push every button I have, and they attach some more buttons to push (), I cant even imagine shunning them. It would hurt me to my heart to do that to them, but the worst part would be how bad it would hurt them. I feel sick for the ones that are treated like that. My husband and I have been out for about 7 months now, and his family is starting to shun us more and more. It doesnt really bother me but he's a grown man and i can see the hurt in his eyes, so i can only imagine the pain that some have had to to through. It really saddens me.
mamashel
Englishman,
You have stired my heart.
Every morning when I wake up, I wonder the same thing about people in our family. It seems that what we want so much, other's have and don't appreciate. My mom, a JW shuns me. My son, not a JW, just avoids me. Says he's too busy working to connect regularly. I told my hubby, that he'd make a good JW. One of his son's is like that as well.
Our kids know they aren't abandoned. We give them the space to have their own lives, and we don't expect much at all. Still, we are having feelings of being rejected, when they don't understand how important it is for parents to at least have a regular connection open for communication. It's a time when they don't need us, as much as we need them.
Rejection and abandonment is the same, no matter how it comes down. Those feelings are still there to deal with. I don't think we'll ever figure out the "why's" as to how parents could abandon children on the instruction of an organization like JW's. It's so unnatural to set out to do that "on purpose".. .
Love and Light,
Sentinel
E-man:
My daughter was just married last month. She lived home until she was married(young). When she was on her honeymoon, it felt like she was just on vacation and she would be returning soon (to come home). I'm o.k. now, but it took alittle adjustment to not have her here everyday. What am I saying!!!, she comes home for lunch everyday! And, I love it!
Scootergirl, MegaDude, Gopher:
I know it must hurt you all so deeply to wish you could have the NORMAL loving relationship that you all deserve with your parents and grandparents. Oh, they are missing out on so much that they cannot ever makeup for! My hearts go out to all of you who are so abused by this evil organization. God, I hate this sadistic organization!!!!
Mrs. Shakita
Can't add to much to whats already been said, but:
E-man: As far as your lil lads - don't fret - there will soon enough be lil grand e-mans running around and the requests for babysitting services will probably move ya to the point of adding an addition to the lil homestead!!!!
