A friend of mine that is df went to hall today someone held door for him he thanked them ,soon after and elder aproached wispered in his ear "you cant talk to anyone" the Pharisees .
So heres latest from local hall
by poopie 15 Replies latest jw friends
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steve2
The message is clear: If you are intending to come back, play the game and don't you dare deviate one little bit.
Move along people: Nothing's changed.
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oppostate
"you cant talk to anyone"
That's right, didn't he know the unclean are to be seen and ignored. How dare he show any human appreciation for a kindness done!
Really, what a louse that elder is!
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OnTheWayOut
Actually, a DF'ed person is free to talk to anyone they want to talk to. It is the faithful JW that must not talk to THEM. Even there, they play the cat-and-mouse game of saying that people CHOOSE to shun the person. We all know that's nonsense.
If you want to be reinstated, yes- you have to play the silent game. But what an ass-hat for shooting someone down for saying "Thank you."
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Diogenesister
Love that expression.... ass-hat!
Ass-Hat, gloves, coat &wellies too!
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stillin
When I used to do the literature counter, a DF'd man used to come over to get his stuff. He always engaged me in more conversation than I was supposed to be involved in, but I just couldn't bring myself to be rude to him. Finally one of the elders told him to cut it out. So, who was rude? -
stan livedeath
i dont know why--if a d/f person really needs to get back inside the cult---why not simply make contact with a literature cart attendant---in a different location / town----and start a bible study--attend a few meetings--and take it from there. see how it goes. just create a fake ID -
millie210
Well not that it will make a difference but the elder is wrong.
A person saying excuse me when they sneeze or step on someones foot - or a thank you is not breaking their restrictions as one disfellowshipped.
Its conversation that is "unscriptural" according to them. This would be anything conversational however brief, including saying a "greeting" such as "Hello" or "How Are You?" .
So they Pharisee elder just gulped a camel and strained at a gnat. He doesnt even know the finer technacalities of his own rules he is entrusted with enforcing.
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Magnum
I was thinking what millie210 said. Saying "thank you", etc. is just common courtesy; it is not part of a conversation. As an elder, I would have actually thought it good for the DFed one to say thank you. It would have indicated to me positive things such as lack of bitterness. -
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stan livedeath
If they want to get back they probably believe it is the "truth", and don't forget Jehovah sees EVERYTHING so they have to play the game by the "rules"... :/