I met a guy at Internet

by Ardilla 21 Replies latest jw friends

  • Ardilla
    Ardilla

    Hi!

    I would love to hear your opinion about what happen to me this weekend with a guy I met.

    I met a guy at Internet last week. I called him and we talked from 10 pm until 6 am from the next day. He lived in another town, so we continued our talk during the week. We found a lot of coincidences and good conexion between us. I had the idea with a friend of mine to go to his town and meet him. But my friend couldn't go. So I thought to go anyway, but later I was afraid so I told him that I wouldn't go. He got angry, and I tried to explain that I was afraid. He told me that in life we've to take risk and be happy. I agree, because I'm just in a moment of my life that I take a lot of risk to live happier than before.

    I told him that I belong to a very strict religion, that I left one year ago and although my 28 years old I was virgin. So I asked him if he had any expectation about me. He had the opinion that when a couple have sex that is a reason to continue the relationship and isn't wrong, and when it doesn't happen is good anyway. I thought to go and visit him during the day, but convinced me to stay there, because he told me he lived with his mother and had troubles to gave her explanation. He would lie, so I to my parents.

    So I visited him and went to him on saturday. We look for a place to stay. In my mind I had the idea that nothing would happen, but very inside of me I knew that it could happen. Finally we went to a motel. That night he was a little rude and to fast in my opinion. So I couldn't do it. I was too nervous. We just had oral sex.

    In the morning he told me that two weeks before he liked a german beatiful girl that decided to go with other man to north of our country. So he think about what really happen, why she didn't look after him. Obviously that made that my interest level went down. And another think he said made that my interest on him went down again. He said I look better on the pictures... So that day I thought return to my city. But we had a quiet conversation and I got hot about him. So I stayed one more night and we finally I could relax myself and have sex with him. He was very sweet both nights, because he hugh me while we slept.

    I really liked him, because of his personality, but I don't know if he have the same interest on me. I'm going to tell you why.

    He paid nothing for me, but I did. He lived with his mother, and I have the idea that maybe he have to paid for both to live. So maybe that was the reason to be so stingy. I think sometimes that maybe he lied to me when he said he had to troubles to explain her mother to stay out of home, to have the chance to spent the night with me. I also think about the german girl he told me and that maybe he doesn't like me too much in the fisic way. He had the opinion that I'm a child, because I have a lot of energy and dreams to make things. These are the reason that maybe he doesn't have too much interest in me. But I think also that he was very sweet when he hugh me while we slept, and took my hand before I left. And still wants to talk to me and visit me.

    Now I feel doupts of course and little sad... In the one hand I think that maybe I'm incredible nave and he took advantage of it, and in the other hand maybe I wanted to have sex for the first time...

    Please give me your opinion about it.

    Thanks a lot in advance.

    ardilla

  • LB
    LB

    Ardilla it appears you got played here doesn't it? He was angry at first, then he was fast with you and had to settle for oral sex?

    Of course he wants to see you again. I suggest you move on.

  • RandomTask
    RandomTask

    Thumbs down

    These aren't the droids you're looking for, move along...

  • Robdar
    Robdar

    Hi Ardilla, what country are you from? You said:

    That night he was a little rude and to fast in my opinion. So I couldn't do it. I was too nervous. We just had oral sex......So I stayed one more night and we finally I could relax myself and have sex with him. He was very sweet both nights, because he hugh me while we slept.

    Seems to me that you were a little "to fast" too.

    I think that maybe I'm incredible nave and he took advantage of it, and in the other hand maybe I wanted to have sex for the first time...

    Don't blame the guy, girlfriend. He took advantage because YOU let him take advantage. Besides, you said it yourself "I wanted to have sex for the first time". This means that you also had your own agenda and took advantage of him.

    It is very possible this man lied to you. If you are worried about this, perhaps you should have gotten to know him a little better? I pray to God that you used some sort of protection against unwanted pregnancy and disease.

    Robyn

    Edited by - robdar on 12 November 2002 17:50:31

  • nilfun
    nilfun

    (((Ardilla)))

    I told him that I wouldn't go. He got angry

    Strike one

    he told me he lived with his mother and had troubles to gave her explanation. He would lie, so I to my parents.

    Strike two

    That night he was a little rude and to fast in my opinion.

    Strike three

    Ardilla, please stay safe...

    He had the opinion that I'm a child

    Please, leave this guy alone. There are so many guys that will treat you with kindness and respect...this guy sounds like he has NO respect for you whatsoever...

    He said I look better on the pictures

    Excuse me! Oh no he didn't! You can do better than this guy, Ardilla...

  • Dutchie
    Dutchie

    Hi Ardilla,

    I would not see this man again. He is interested only in having sex with you. Besides that, there is the possibility that he is married. An adult man who was interested in you would have taken you to meet his mother, have her cook you dinner and be proud to show you around to his friends and family.

    This guy is bad news.

  • sf
    sf

    Was his name, by chance, Elvis; aka 'ridesstrikesback'?

    hahahahahaha

  • ApagaLaLuz
    ApagaLaLuz

    hey Girl!

    I'm sorry your first time had to be with this loser. I waited to give my virginity to someone I really cared about, and I had no regrets.

    This guy is a loser. You need to understand that you don't have to settle for his type. Move on.....

    I guarantee a great guy, one worth having YOU will come along. Not all men are bad, you just have to weed through the dogs to get the great ones.

    This guy sucks. Don't lower yourself for him. He sounds like a real waste of time.

    Keep your head up sister and BE the queen that you deserve to be treated like

    Ciao

  • Tashawaa
    Tashawaa

    My personal opinion...

    I think that at 28 years, you wanted sex. The experience.

    Use protection if you're having sex.

    You don't need to "be in love" to enjoy it, but make sure you "know" the guy - be safe.

    Don't expect anything more with this guy. I think you have mixed feelings because you've received mixed signals.

    Ardilla... there's many good, nice men out there. Have fun, but be safe in looking for one.

  • Elsewhere
    Elsewhere

    I'm with LB and Nilfun. When he got angry about you being afraid, you should have dropped him. If he really cared about you and your feelings, he would have respected and understood your fear.

    Also, the fact that he put absolutely no money into this tells me he is using one of the rules from Tom Lykis (Spelling?) a radio host. Tom teaches guys how to get laid for cheap or nothing at all.

    He's a player.

    Don't beat yourself up over this, just move on a wiser woman. Look for a man who will respect you and treat you kindly.

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