Thanx folks! Prisca, I think that the elders won't be stopping by, as long as I make some monthly appearance. I hope that she continues to read this book. I know she gets overloaded at times while reading the book. It can be "heavy". I hope, too, that we all can get our families to understand the control that the Watchtower exerts over its people.
My Wife Says She'll Read Franz' Crisis Of Conscien
by minimus 90 Replies latest jw friends
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Big Tex
Overloaded on several levels I would imagine. Not only does it read like the Aid book, but Ray painstakingly backs up every detail. Which is good, but it is a lot to plow through intellectually. On the emotional level, that's really the tough one. Just be there for her and support her. I would imagine dealing with fear would be the biggest concern. There's a lot of brainwashing that needs to be dealt with. But you'll get her through it.
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minimus
Well, I just talked to my wife about a half hour ago regarding COC. With tears in her eyes, she said that she couldn't believe how badly they treated Ray Franz. She said that she is convinced, "Ray Franz is not an apostate. He is really anointed." She dreamed about poor Ray last night and said that this book has touched her in a way that she did not expect. She admitted that she read the book mostly because I asked her to. But she recounted so many experiences of unfairness that she began to relate to the charecters. She only has a few pages left to complete the book but said she wants to read it once again. She WANTS it to settle in. She went to a different afternoon bookstudy today only to complain about how boring and redundant this book is. Everything in the family is working according to schedule. Even my mother didn't care about not having a telephone hook-up for the meeting last week. Before she would have cried. "The scene of this world is changing".
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Big Tex
That is fantastic news Minimus! How do you feel about it?
I've always maintained that no reasonably intelligent Witness who is willing to read the book could not help but come away looking at the organization with a very different outlook. Is your mother reading it as well? Are you going to introduce her to the writings of Farkel and AlanF?
Be prepared for her to feel angry and probably sad at being betrayed. It will probably help her just to be able to verbalize her feelings to you. Good luck!
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Joyzabel
WOW, Minimus. I'm glad to hear that your wife read CoC. That book is very powerful. But even more joyous is that your wife maybe looking at things compatable with you! Hurray for you, you may have cracked the shell!!!
Hugs,
j2bf
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That is great news minimus!!... I am so happy for you... I really hope things work out for you... I always get happy when I see or hear about people FINALLY opening their eyes... and giving the real truth a chance.
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nowisee
YAY!!! opening one's mind is a good thing.
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minimus
Thanx folks!!! I'm very happy about this. She's intelligent but scared. She has read some of your comments here, on this board. She seems to connect with some of the "apostates". As a matter of fact, I said to her that I was going to my computer to check up on my "fellow apostates", she said, "Don't say that." As far as other's writings, I think she might enjoy some of Farkel's stuff, as long as he doesn't swear at her, and Alan's. I don't want to over inundate her with too much, too soon. I know that she enjoys some of the personal feelings that you express here, especially the ones that are not overly bitter.
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xjw_b12
Minimus. Awesome news. I read CofC first, but didn't have to do as much convincing with wife to get her to read it, she had already been kicked in the teeth enough, she was in anger mode.
You mentioned : She's intelligent but scared. I recall that scared feeling, but it was replaced by a gamut of emotions, including shock, horror, resentment, anger, but finally a feeling of liberation.
Wife and I are very excited for you.
Regards xjw_b12 & calamityjane
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Joyzabel
Minimus,
I think you are wise to take it slow, but please don't use the word "apostates" around her. Remember to a JW it is worse than a curse word and it sounds like you are condemning people with that label. In time it may become a word of silliness to her as it has to some of us here. I found it was only after truly getting free from the influence and mind control of the WTBTS that I could use that word and it not upset me.
I understand her being scared. Been there done that. The "leaving" process takes time and a range of emotions go with it. Just be supportive and let her lead the conversation and emotions that she wants to express.
There is so much more happiness in seeing couples (who want) deprogram together than see the heartbreak of marriages torn apart by the mind control.
Hugs,
j2bf