She's in Hospital

Yerusalyim

I dropped off Liza at the hospital today. Bad mojo at first. Her assessment appointment was at 10AM, we showed up at 9:40 and were the only clients in the waiting room. I filled out the initial paperwork and we sat and waited. Finally, after four trips to the counter asking when someone would be able to see her (us) I got up and left at 10:55. I was a wee bit PO'd.

After a call to her Therapist, and a call back from the Hospital, we tried it again at 2:30 and they were much more attentive to getting us seen. There were a lot of tears and crying on her part, but she didn't back out. She's in for observation until monday when the psychatrist will see her. We go from there.

I've shared a lot with you all on this situation. Some, perhaps many think I'm an idiot for letting her come back. Oh well, She's in the middle of a nervous breakdown, I can just leave her out there flapping. As she gets the help she needs she and I can reassess our marriage.

Hey, I made her stay gone for a month and it was only at the request of her therapist that I allowed her to come home, I'm thinking I'm not the biggest pushover in the world. I go to see about getting me and the kids into counseling on Monday...we need it.

I've not forgiven and forgotten, the fact that I would have to use protection to be with my wife again sticks in my throat pretty hard. On the other hand my conscience wouldn't allow me to leave her out there knowing how sick she is. We wait, we see, I pray, well wishes or thoughts from ya'll would be appreciated.

Yeru/Mike

shera

I hope I find the right words to say to you Mike.I have to say you are a good ,kind husband.You love your wife and she is lucky to have you,I wish you true happiness. Waiting things out and taking it slow is a good thing...I would have to say,forgiving her is something you should do,for yourself and her well being ,despite all the hurt she has inflicted on you.(O.k I'm being too opinionated...?)She does need to deserve your trust and gain it back.You take care and I do wish the best for you.

Navigator

Yerusalem

You are the only one who can decide what is best for you and yours. Your wife is indeed fortunate to have someone like you. As Saint Satan would say, "the good in you is God in you showing through". God bless you both!

hillbilly

Yeru-- what can I say, your a good man. I wish mine would agree to getting the help she needs.

Maybe all will work out for you all. Good Luck and God Bless.

J

jgnat

Talk about flashbacks...my mother was diagnosed bipolar disorder when I was a teen. She could get really nasty at times, and my dad rode it out. He waited until all the kids were grown and she was fairly stable before he left her. Boy, was she mad. She figured dad would be there to take care of her forever. Dad was very generous, though. He gave her the house and a monthly allowance (she had never worked outside the home). What he got was his freedom, and he kept his conscience clear.

Through my adult life, I have had to step in on occassion to get mom back on track. My ex is schizophrenic, and my son has been diagnosed with that disease as well. It is pure hell trying to get the right supports in place, and nearly impossible to get help for the affected family. Congrats on getting help for yourself and the kids.

As much as you feel responsibility towards your wife, there may be a time when you will have to cut and run, for your sake and for your kids. By the way, my mom found a new boyfriend and has remained stable for over 10 years.

LyinEyes

Mike I trully admire the way you are handling this situation, it is not an easy one. I have told ya a little about my mom and how many times she had to be hospitalized for depression, it was hard on us all.

Go with your heart, and you will never regret doing what you feel is right at this time for you and for her.

I wish you both peace durning this hard time................. Dede

Yerusalyim

Thanks for all your well wishes kids. It is difficult, and yes, there may be a time I need to cut and run, I think I'll know when that point is. God Bless

OUTLAW

Hey Yerusalyim,you are one kind hearted man.I hope things go well for you...OUTLAW

avishai

Good for you, man! Just cuz shes cheated etc., doesnt mean you cant help her. It also does'nt mean you have to stay w/ her romantically or have to sleep w/ her. You can gont. to help as much as you want w/ out putting yourself in danger, & I mean emotionally, not physically. Or, go for it if that's what you want, I still dig ya no matter what!

Yerusalyim

The Doc saw Liza today and is recommending a stay of "a week or two" which I translate to mean, we want it to be two weeks, but the insurance may not go along with us.

They've changed up her meds, and apparently are ready to address and reconfirm the Dissociative Identity Disorder and the Bi-Polar.

In the mean time, I"'m just sittin on the dock of the bay, watch the tide role away, just a sittin on the dock of the bay, wastin time. I left my home in Georgia, headed for the Frisco Bay. I got nothin to live for, seems like nothins gonna come my way..."

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