garfield,
Welcome to the forum. Ex-JW's are at various stages of exit depending on several factors, such as how long they were JW's, whether they were born into the religion or converted, how much of their family is in, etc. I feel deeply for the ex-JW's who risk losing contact with their entire family if they leave. There are so many who just go through the motions in order to maintain some sort of contact with family members, a sad situation indeed.
It sounds as though zanex is blessed with many non-JW relatives, which will make things go much smoother for you. It can put a strain on a relationship when one of the families will not accept the choice made by their family member. I hope you don't get your feelings hurt easily. Please don't ever take anything personally if a JW says something hurtful. They think your eternal salvation and that of zanex is at stake because you have chosen not to belong to their organization. This kind of thinking is not conducive to healthy interaction.
I wish you both the best. You are wise to come here and get the perspective of the people who post here. We have had varied experiences and come from many different places and walks of life. It helps to learn what others see from where they're standing.
Regards,
SandraC