New - My Story

by Skeptically Yours 25 Replies latest jw experiences

  • Skeptically Yours
    Skeptically Yours

    Hi y'all!

    I've been a Witness for as long as I can remember. Cannot remember ever celebrating a birthday or any holidays. My grandmother introduced my parents and siblings to the religion.

    It hasn't been a bad experience at all, except for the time when my hormones kicked in at 18 years old and I fornicated with my first boyfriend (it was awesome really! We lived it up and partied so much! Danced merengue, salsa, & slow many, many, many nights!!! Went to concers, etc.; he showed me such a fun time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) plus joined the military for 4 years to get away from it all and broaden my horizons.

    I went back in after I calmed down and have been just riding the wave since, you know, not being an 'orthodox witness' but rather being extremelly selective about my activities and associations within. I mean, why be bitter and lose it all?! I skip meetings frequently because other stuff comes up and I go out on service just enough time to stay regular each month, keep myself intentionally away from the 'in crowd' at the congregation, avoid much of the social gatherings.

    My payoff is being able to be in good standing with my aging parents, who are so nice and sweet really, plus I also keep in touch with some really nice people that just happen to be witnesses also; at the same time, I get to keep all my 'outside' relationships intact. It's quite a balancing act this somewhat 'double' life, but it's fun and rewarding on each side.

    However, I can smell trouble brewing up now that my husband wants to attain privileges. I fear he may become frustrated because the wife doesn't help by her 'leading' example. Imagine that?!

    So what do you all think? I hope to be welcomed here.

    Take care!

  • ballistic
    ballistic

    You've got it sorted. Many here would envy the way you have it. Take care!

  • minimus
    minimus

    just dump him.

  • kelpie
    kelpie

    now now minimus.... lol

    Yes you are very welcome here..... Welcome aboard

    Edited by - kelpie on 10 December 2002 21:55:3

  • Skeptically Yours
    Skeptically Yours

    Dump him?! No way! He's a descent, fun-loving, hard working, nice looking man! We laugh a lot, work together around the house, and travel quite a bit! No way will I dump my baby!

    I've got him at my same level in the organization. So, if he lets me, I'll continue to entertain him in a way the organization can't. So far so good!

    Take care!

  • out4good3
    out4good3
    However, I can smell trouble brewing up now that my husband wants to attain privileges.

    I hope he's open minded enough to not blame you and your zest for life for his inability to attain privileges. There are many men out there who are making their wives miserable because she won't toe the line in thier quest for privileges.

  • minimus
    minimus

    so if you don't wanna dump him, what are ya worried about? You seem to have the best end of both worlds.....I think ya kiddin'.

  • Joyzabel
    Joyzabel

    Welcome to the board, Skeptically Yours. Enjoy your balancing act

    j2bf

  • Yerusalyim
    Yerusalyim

    Yes, you are welcomed here, no, I don't envy your position. It's not the wife making it hard for hubby to get priveleges, it's the Society. One unique thing about ministry within the Catholic Church; were I to decide to become a deacon, my wife's conduct would NOT be a factor, however, if my wife said "NO, he can't do it!" the church would not allow me to be a deacon. I wonder how many JW wives would say NO to their hubbies seeking priveleges if they were allowed?

  • Skeptically Yours
    Skeptically Yours

    Out4good3,

    Oh I know a few women like the type you mentioned, but I won't fall into that pattern. It's taken me a while to find my comfort zone in life and I intend to maintain it.

    My current wonderful husband is actually my 2nd husband, and as for my first boyfriend (the one from my story at the top) whom I loved so much he wasn't even my first husband! So, you see, if it ever comes to a decision between complying with his demands so that he can attain privileges or breaking up my marriage, I've learned that life goes on and I can equally love again. Best of all, he understands that perfectly so I know he won't push it. I've been completely honest with him about who I am, where I've been, what I've done, and knows how comfortable I feel and that I won't change whatever the cost.

    Life's good thus far.

    Take care,

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