Why do Some Ex-JWs go Wacko? (page 4)

twinkletoes

Rebel,

You have brought up a very interesting topic - I feel so sorry for ones who have been shunned by their families, it must be heartbreaking. I wrote to my own brother (also a JW) a few weeks ago, and enclosed copies of all of the info that we have got together, mainly from this site, regarding UN, Paedophiles, False Prophecies etc. but as yet he still hasn't been in touch with me. I think that he may be shunning me.

You say that your'e not a strong person, but I think that you, are because you have come out of the "cult" and are standing for principles, don't give them ammunition for gossip. Keep your chin up!

love from Twink

rebel

Thanks Twink,

But the truth is, I wouldn't be strong if my family turned against me. Imagine having a child, you love them, nurture them, make sure they eat all the right foods, take them to school, always watch out for them and keep them safe. And then, because you no longer share the same religious beliefs, that child turns against you! I have seen it happen and I never really thought about it as much as I have lately. There was a brother who was DFed and his pioneer daughter will have nothing to do with him and it breaks his heart. If this happend to me, I don't know what I would do. That's why I asked this question. The pressure you are under in the org, and even more when you leave, can lead you to do really stupid things that you know are going to hurt you. I think if my children shunned me I would crack up and have to be put in a padded cell for my own safety.

twinkletoes

Rebel,

I know it's very difficult to even imagine your own children shunning you, I have three sons, and I am so grateful that they made up their own minds when teenagers, not to go along to the meetings, they hadn't got baptised, so there was no problem there. Try to think positive, we have two very dear (JW) friends who are tottering on the brink of coming out of the Org. we have spoken to them about our feelings and we thought that perhaps they would cool off towards us, but we took the plunge and bought them Ray Franz's Crisis of Conscience, we asked them if they would object to us giving them this book, but they said they would like to read it. Today, they telephoned to say that they can't put the book down and are taking it in turns to read it, they admitted it has really opened their eyes to all that is going on within the Organisation, and they don't feel so guilty now about the doubts they have been having about things. Who knows, this may be the way things turn out for you and your children, I do hope so.

Love from Twink

Shakita

Hi rebel:

Like your name.

I wrote a whole paragraph on why people go "weird" after they leave or are "dismissed" from the organization. Then I deleted it because it was already said before in this thread.

I guess what it comes down to, rebel, is why(and how much) you really want to leave the org. You say you have family who will shun you, and you just could not deal with this. If you are still living home, and I assume you are, this could be devastating. Some people have the fortitude to withstand the abuse that will follow if you stop "cold turkey" being a witness. Some others must take baby steps in leaving the org. because their situation warrants it. From reading your post it seems like the baby steps route is for you.(IMO, of course) I think it is better in the long run for someone who is afraid of all the consequences of leaving because it gives them their new found freedom time to sink in..(so you won't go wacko)

I know how much courage it takes to even consider leaving the religion your family considers the "real truth" from God. Take your time.....the end really isn't around the corner, you know.

Isn't it ashame that we have to even be here discussing this at all?

Take care.

Mrs. Shakita

Valis

I always say whatever doesn't kill you or land you in jail only makes you stronger. *LOL*...I've gone off the deep end several times....and been to the depths of depravity, but I'm not entirely sure it was because I was a JW, maybe more that I was willing to subject myself to insane activities that could have killed me. Or maybe it was a bit of both, as time makes its harder for me to tell. I'm not even sure if I would have recognized such a thing anyway. I was pretty much alone when I left, but happy nonetheless. I was 17, had my own aprtment, was making lots of money...sheesh....if you put any 17 year old in that position they are most likely to get a bit crazy. I guess I'm getting old now as I have resigned or refined my lechery to drinking massive qunatities of beer and occassionaly pinching too hard. *LOL*.

Sincerely,

District Overbeer

WildTurkey

I think I have gone off the deep end a time or two, after leaving the borg.

The reason I think is because all those years in the org, you stay repressed. You are not allowed to go out to night clubs and dance, you cant gamble, no boxing, no r-rated movies, no carnal knowledge of sheep, ok I was joking on the last one, besides I think that is allowed at Watch Tower farms. But I believe after a short period even those who go a little wild slow back down and go at a pace that they can live with, and that dont hurt them.

WildHorses

Hey, I was a wacko before I became a dub, while I was one and after I left. You gonna hold that against me?

Xena

Why do we go wacko? You wake up one day and discover this is all you have, all you will ever be and your life is 1/2 over...I think that is sufficient to drive anyone a bit wacko.

Xena of the Making up for Lost Time Class

rebel

Your replies are fantastic - I don't think anyone on this board is wacko (tho I am pretty new!!) I just know I can't go on dragging myself to meetings, even if it is only once a month or so, feeling the way I do. I am so angry about so many things at the moment and most of them involve 2 elders in particular. I love my children and I am 99% certain they would be on my side when I make the complete break. Maybe baby steps are better as you have advised.

mouthy

Rebel! I brought my kids up JW -No Christmas-birthdays etc:etc: One of my kids are still there with two of my grand kids-( I am evil in their eyes-cos I didnt believe Jesus came in 1914) But another of my daughters left the Borg... I wish you could see her house inside & outside... Whew! her electric bill will be massive !!.Lights everywhere. Mangers,sheep shepherds etc:etc: She says "Mum I couldnt do this for SOOOOO long -I am doing what I always wanted to do....".

I think some one made a good observasion about the starving kids who just had gruel & came & saw us with loads of food. It reminds me of myself. I was in England during the 2nd W.War. I had not tasted a bannana for over 4 years.we couldnt get them... I came to Canada as a warbride,& my hubby( Canadian )knew I longed to taste a bannana- He had lots for me on my landing -I ate them for breakfast lunch & supper....

Cant stand them now!!!!!My 2 cents

Why do Some Ex-JWs go Wacko?

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