Don't Accept Witness Rudeness!

metatron

A lot of what elders ( and others) ask is just plain rude AND YOU SHOULD TELL
THEM SO. I've informed elders that 'inquisitions and interrogations are unChristian
and rude'.

Imagine people showing up uninvited at your home, asking questions about your private
faith or sexual conduct, blind to their own arrogance!

You should 'dress them down' for their ill-mannered behavior and ask them to leave.
Eventually, enough elders or Witnesses will become embarrassed - as they should be.

I write this after reading account after account in which ex-JWS meekly submit
to intrusions - that are not part of a judicial committee function they can automatically
df you for. I am otherwise astonished that people who would eagerly face persecution from
various Witness issues ( like flag salute) clam up obsequiously when confronted with
a rude Circuit Overseer. You might be surprized at what kind of subjects can be dodged
by making an issue about these 'spiritual shepherds' arrogant behavior.

On the other hand, as an elder, I was often silent when I should have spoken up.
- although, I did take some pleasure in being annoying to these self exalted
jerks.

metatron ( my rant for today)

jgnat

You are right. I have heard my honey called the Christmas holidays "pagan" one too many times. My other pet peeve is being called an "unbeliever". I believe plenty. Rudeness should always be called to account.

truthseeker1

I think its rude for them to call their religion "the truth" to people (me) who don't believe. I call what I believe the truth because it is what I think is the truth. They claim I left the truth, but I tell them I found the truth. They don't seem to like that.

Scully

Hi metatron:

That was exactly my point in detailing the experience we faced last week when two elders came by our house - uninvited - and asked my husband point-blank if he (and then I) still considered ourselves to be JWs.

After 8 years of not even bothering to visit us socially, or during the previous couple of years when we were struggling with some health issues I had, to offer encouragement and support, how DARE they show up - after all this time - and DARE to ask anyone whether they still feel we are JWs?? I mean, after that treatment, why on earth would anyone WANT to be identified as a JW? They are, plain and simple, an embarrassment to humanity.

If they had spoken to me, instead of to my husband, I would have dumped a load of shame on them that would have stunk for miles. And they have the nerve to call themselves "Christians".

Love, Scully

benext

As an elder on many occasions I had to be the fly in the ointment. I simply did not believe many of the things those brothers would say or do. As a "civilian" I'm not having any of it. On a phone call from an elder last week when he asked what he could do, I made it plain to him that he had already done enough.

jgnat

Soooo, right, Metatron. "I know I've got the TRUTH (tm)". That is rude. My honey says it when I nail him to the wall with a good rebuttal. I think he uses this mantra to reset his "faith" button. Do witnesses confuse blind trust with faith? From his point of view, my honey is hanging on to this TRUTH like a life-preserver. He has no idea how insulting it sounds to me.

Big Tex

My time is coming. I can feel it. There will be a knock at my door and a couple of elders will be there to "encourage" me. But I'm not afraid and I won't run and I won't let them intimidate me. They may indeed end up DF'ing me, but I can guarantee you that they will know they were in a fight. I can give as good as I receive.

Damn straight.

cruzanheart

And I'll be right there with you, honey.

Nina

Englishman

Metatron,

You're spot on there. Now and again an uninformed JW will ask me if I am planning on turning back to Jhvh, or cleaning up my life or similar.

I inform them in no uncertain terms that I find their comments rude and nosy, I also tell them to mind their own business. They always seem surprised.

Englishman.

Golden Girl

I'm married to a JW and I used to be one..UGH!

Having a hubby and mother in law and brother in law and sister in law that are JW's is TOUGH!

Ater coming to these XJW sites for a while..it felt so good to stand up for what I believed in. I got sick of hearing.."But you KNOW it is the TRUTH"..If you aren't a JW..you Will die!...

Well he can believe anything he wants..it has broken my heart more than once.

Now that he has teminal cancer..he is breaking it again when his family groups together and prays for armageddeon to come soon.Course they used to pray for it to come when I first met them 45 years ago!

Do they really realize what they are praying for? That's like saying.."God, please hurry up and destroy all my family and loved ones that aren't JW's..so that I can be in a Paradise world"...

It really hurts to be called an apostate with such disaste that I feel like I should have a scarlet A on my sweater!

But thanks to sites like this..it really helps! Just seeing how others are going through the same things.. Gives me the strength to say ..."Those are your beliefs..not mine...please keep them to yourself!". I never could have done that a few years ago! Being the sweet little JW submissive wife I was!

Thanks...Snoozy...

Edited by - Golden Girl on 16 December 2002 16:24:2

Don't Accept Witness Rudeness!

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