by Delicious_Daniel 43 Replies latest social relationships
I really like this girl who ive been told is a JW. Im not sure about JW's and their beleifs of dating so I have a few questions.
1) Are JW's allowed to date outside their religion?
2) What are JW's beleifs on pre-marital sex?
3) Anything else I should know about JW's and dating? I am of no religion, but I really really like her, she is still young and I doubt I could date her right now, but perhaps someday...
Any help would be appreciated, thanks.
1.... they are encouraged to stay way from worldly people such as yourself
2.... This is why they are encouraged to stay away, no sex, you'll try to do her
3... The best advise I can give you is to stay away lest you get sucked in.
1. No.
2. Do it and you die (i.e., you're disfellowshipped/shunned/ignored and made to feel like pond scum).
3. Theoretically, you aren't supposed to be alone with her until probably the wedding night, though that rule is pretty lax.
My advice would be to run, don't walk, as far away from her as possible. At best, you'll have your heart broken. At worst, you'll end up marrying her and then find yourself either sucked into the JW mind control beliefs or nagged within an inch of your life for not becoming one.
All the best,
Nina
1. No
2. No premarital sex
3. Date in considering marriage as an end product. No recreational dating.
If marriage is a possible goal consider this: Witnesses do not celebrate birthdays, XMas, or any other holidays. Witnesses will not accept blood transfusions so if you plan on having children that will be a big division. I heard at a recent large religious meeting, that if witnesses married non-witnesses it was the same as if the witness was married a corpse from the morgue.
Blondie
1) NO
2)Unacceptable
3)See answer 2
RUNNNNN, FORREST......RUNNNNNN!!!!!!
Hi Daniel, welcome
Note that all of the above is true only if she is a 'good' witness.
If she is a 'bad' witness (IE, 'two faced', 'leading double life', etc.), on the other hand, you have a WHOLE nother can of worms.
Specifically, she is used to lying. TO EVERBODY. Her parents, her friends, EVERYONE, and if she's still considered a JW, she's so good at lying she doesn't even realize when she's doing it. She, in fact, completely believes the lies and can't control them - she'll lie to anyone instinctively.
Sound extreme?
Well, yeah, but it's true. Consider the JW stance on dating, as answered above. No sex. No dating outside religion. No dating of ANY kind unless you plan on marrying the person. And, if you DO marry the person, no 'kinky' sex. Lusting after your spouse is a sin. etc
Life as a JW is a very special kind of hell that will destroy your mind ('good JWs'), or cause you to detach from reality ('bad JWs').
In either situation, you don't want to be involved.
Best (only) bet is to try and get her out. If that doesn't work, forget about it. You'll be miserable.
Even if you beat the odds and marry this girl, her religion won't allow her to find out just how 'delicious' you are. (Translation: No oral sex. Ever.)
Hmmm
Edited by - hmmm on 16 December 2002 16:58:56
Man you peeps make it sound like id be dating an untouchable force... all the more challenge. Im still a virgin and not really interested in sex with anyone at the moment (99.9% of girls ive met just turn me right off, and 100% of guys INCASE your thinking im gay) shes really the only girl ive been attracted to, and its partly her religion, its kept her so 'innocent' from the rest of girls ive met who are dumb party sluts (no offense).
If JW"s are so strict then whats with this: Her birthday was about three months ago, now at the time I never knew she was a JW, I spent 250 dollars on this Roxy watch, walked to her house at 4:00am in the morning and left it in an unmarked box on her door that had her name on it. Needless to say I hadn't seen her for a month prior to that, and havnt seen her since, however ive been informed by several people that she wears the watch. Now dont you think that her parents would make her take it back or something? I mean JW's dont celebrate birthdays from what ive gathered... so why would she be allowed to keep the watch? I dont quiet understand... and personally I dont know how seriously she takes being a JW, infact im not even 100% sure shes a JW, ive had several girls who know her tell me that, but my parents told me shes foursquare gospel. Anyways anyone have anything to say about the gift?.. Maybe I should goto her house the day before christmas and see if they have a christmas tree up, cause I dont see why shed be allowed to keep the gift if they were JW, it doesnt make sense to me.
And Im not gonna run away from her... thatd be like running away from everything ive spent my life searching for. Also thanks for all the replies, you people are very nice :-)
oh man, ur screwed. Do some research on the religion, 'cause you are in for a bumpy ride.
No, they don't celebrate much of anything. They do, however, accept gifts. So, you think you have found your dream girl. You are headed for trouble as many have pointed out to you. By the way, if you want to know what religion she is, why don't you just come out and ask her?
