So why us?

by scaredyetresolved 15 Replies latest jw friends

  • Sentinel
    Sentinel

    This is a very interesting question. I can't help but think how it was when my mother found "the truth", and told us that she knew with all her heart that this was what she'd been searching for her whole life. So, back then, we were asking that very question, why were were "selected" to know this beautiful "truth". We were only kids; we didn't know any better but to follow our mother.

    Ahh, and truth is so relative. What truth is to one, is also a lie to another. That is the paradox. And, isn't it odd how the "bible" is used for much of the basis for those "truths"? How can that be?

    Who can say what causes one to be able to "see" the great hoax, and another to spend their whole life in servatude to a falsehood? It's an individual choice. We do things at different times during our span of life, according to our own experiences and needs. What happens is that one persons "answer" is then pushed upon someone else, perhaps a loving mate, or children. Later on, those persons grow from their own experiences, and realize, "hey, this is not my truth", and they move on.

    The problem being with JW's, is that the price of moving on is so extremely high, that it affects so many people within the family unit. And rather than bringing love and acceptance in, they cause division, shunning and rejection. This is why the JW dogma is unhealthy.

    However, some folks need to be told exactly how to live their lives. They need what the WTBTS gives them, total rule, total domination, total control. They don't have to think for themselves, for the society has rules and regulations about every single thing they might come across. So, they kinda stop "living", and begin existing, day by day, without even thinking about what it is "they" want or need. They actually loose themselves in the process. This is my 78 yr old mother. She found "her truth", and never veered, even after shunning most of her children. Now we all suffer because of "her truth". We can see the imbalance of it all; she cannot. Very sad. But, it is her life to live.

    For those of us, whose reality would be different, we do what it takes to move ourselves out of that hold and control. It's a very painful process, but well worth the journey. To be free to make our own choices, according to our own conscience is a good thing. Then, we are off on our own journey to find our own "truths". That's life.

    Edited by - Sentinel on 21 December 2002 10:30:5

  • freedom96
    freedom96

    There are many who take it literally when the WTS says to not question them. It is a scary thing when lives are so controlled by an organization like the WTS, and fear will not allow people to think rationally about what they are doing.

    Fear of the unknown is a scary thing. People are afraid of change.

    An example might be that of a woman who gets beaten by her husband. Everyone else sees it, she doesn't like it, but she is scared to take a stand for fear of what may happen. There finally becomes a breaking point, where the pain of staying is worse than the pain of leaving. It is then that real growth and self worth happen.

    Patience is what we need with our loved ones who are still witnesses.

  • Shakita
    Shakita

    "S ome people change their ways when they see the light, others when they feel the heat."-Caroline Schoeder

    It takes courage to change your entire belief system when you learn the truth about the "truth." Some lack the courage, others choose to stay for personal reasons. In the end, we all must live with the choices we have made. I for one, when I am taking my last breath, will be glad that I lived my life taking the courageous road. Not that I am very courageous, but my conscience would not let me do otherwise.

    Mrs. Shakita

  • Nickey
    Nickey

    Well, I've always been known as the "rebellious" one. But honestly, I've always felt something was wrong since I was around 6 years old. I would always go into the back library room and read all the book. This was before they removed the old books from the library.

    I looked through those books and saw things that weren't right. The symbols. The picture they drew. Some scared me. Some made me curious. Before I could turn another page, a brother came in and took the book away from me. How he looked down at me and told me to leave the books alone... that memory stuck with me into my adulthood.

    The truth is not the truth because you want it to be. I wanted to know The real Truth and not what I wanted to see. Otherwise, I'd be just as bad.

    My mother always says "Who is the bigger fool? The fool? Or the fool following the fool?"

  • Carmel
    Carmel

    Scared,

    Most people's religious convictions are based on emotion rather than reason. An emotional story (baby jesus) is usually the foundation around which apologetics are built and pretty soon you have a complete religion. Without stepping on too many toes, consider how illogical some of the doctrins of Christiany are compared to reason, yet for the most part most Christians struggle with twisting scripture, ignoring the ones that don't support their hagiography to create a set of beliefs to which they become even more emotionally attached. Once the crack appears, there is no way of repairing and for most all faith is lost. no different for most JUUs who leave and realize how fundamentally unsound their belief system was. Pretty tough to re-create belief too quickly.

    Consider what would happen to most Christians if it was conclusively proven that the remains of Jesus' body existed? Now what would all those literalists do with their "unshakeable faith"?

    caveman

  • Farkel
    Farkel

    : But why us? I know there are others that are ten times brighter and cannier than we are!

    Speak for yourself!

    : Why don't they get it???

    Because they aren't ten times brighter, that's why. If they were, they would.

    Farkel

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