Thank you so much. I havent spoken to him all that much so i cant say if he is swaying or not but hes never spoken about it to me before.
Love & Dating
by stefanieroe 25 Replies latest jw experiences
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Gig
I also fell in love with a JW. That was almost two years ago and we still love one another. I never knew much about JW's until I met her and began to study them and their doctrines. I have to tell you that you MUST study their teachings if you really want to be with him. I also have to tell you that having done so myself, there is NO WAY to accept them as truthful, and certainly not the "one true religion". Now let me back up, I'm not saying that JW's are untruthful, most all of them I've met and studied with are genuinely good people. They do the best they can to serve God in the way they are taught...that's what's wrong. What they are taught comes strait from the governing body of the WTS in New York, I am entirely convinced, after thousands of hours of research, that they are corrupt, greedy, unloving, dishonest men. Their teachings, which JW's are REQUIRED to believe as if they come from God himself, have far too often hurt people...even killed them. False teachings abound and there never comes an apology, and wrongdoing is blamed on the average witness. There are plenty of web-sites and books that describe WT history, teachings, and errors. Take the time to do this YOURSELF. Your man will tell you NOT to do this because JW's aren't allowed to read or study ANYTHING that isn't written by the WTS. It's intellectually dishonest to disallow opposing viewpoints, and extremely controlling, which is the best description of the WT world.
My advice is to study the WT for yourself and by yourself, then bring some of what you learn to your man for his consideration. If he refuses to accept what is plainly the truth, then you haven't a chance at happiness with him anytime soon. I can tell you that the WT and JW's seem to have an answer for everything, I can also tell you that the majority of those answers are wrong and it takes a tremendous effort to understand just what it is they want you to believe and how you have to act on that belief. DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE FOOLED. Make sure you are aware of how much your emotions are influencing your decisions. The Bible says that false teachers are like wolves in sheeps clothing, this is the WT in a nutshell. They seem nice and caring, but disagree with them and you will be rejected. Stay honest, tell them how much you hate deceit, that it has no place in the christian life, ESPECIALLY in the so-called one true religion. Tell them after you study their history that you have to expect more from "Jehovah's channel, organization, and arrangement. They will give you excellent arguement, they are TRAINED for this.
Because I have spent so much time researching them and studying with them, I can promise you that they are misled. I care more about this than you can possibly imagine, again, I love a JW too.
E-mail me if you want some help. The fact that they claim that Jesus already returned and we all missed it should be enough to create caution for you. At your age you may not have much Bible study time under your belt, this is dangerous for you at this point, you are vulnerable to their deceit. I promise you that if you become a JW your life will change significantly for the worse.
Honestly, after having gone through what I have, I encourage you to simply tell your man that you will NEVER, EVER be a JW, and refuse to study with him using WT books and mags. His obligation as a JW is to get you to believe EXACTLY as they do, otherwise you are unsaved. The problem is the WT, they are anything but Christian, and as a JW you will be REQUIRED to do exactly as they say, even when they reverse and change their requirements, all the while condemning you for not having faith in God. You cannot be happy as a JW, although you will go around telling everyone that you couldn't be happier.
Please be careful. Their writings are very crafty and clever and can easily confuse you.
Be an unwavering lover of the truth and you will be fine, though not likely with this man.
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NewLight2
I posted these links to your other thread too. I re-posted them here because I feel that they are a MUST READ for all people who do not yet know much about what the WT teaches.
JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES: A CRITICAL ANALYSIS
http://www.geocities.com/Athens/Parthenon/7831/Shaun's Research on the Jehovah's Witnesses
(Site Contains Photo Documentation )
http://www.jwfiles.com/index.htmMy home page - Has lots of links to valuable information
http://www.geocities.com/Athens/Troy/5385/Links1.html -
stefanieroe
Cheers everyone. I did look at those sites but its all too much to read!!! Ive written to gig personally so hopefully you'll get back to me!
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JT
i was involved with jw for over 30 yrs i only wish i had the opportunity that you have before you now
the chance to actually ck the religon out before you get involved
well the net willl provide you with all the documentation you need to make a wish choice
i wish you well
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Sentinel
Be Warned
JW's are like no other religion on this planet. He is of that mindset. He will try to convert you.
Be strong and by all means, stay away from involvement with this dogmatic cult. Check out this forum and the internet, read books written about them, and read how this life altering religion has hurt so many people, so many marriages, so many families.
I'm certain this young man is a fine person. It's a shame that he happens to be involved with this type of religion. This is his choice. With most other people, religion is a part of their lives. With JW's, it is their life. He would choose his religion over you if put in that position. He may have been born into it and have lots of family within. Better to be a bit disappointed now, than scarred for life. Once you become a part of that cult, getting out is an emotional rolleycoaster. Better to know now, than to get wrapped up with him emotionally and be hurt in the long run.
Be warned--all in the most heartfelt of pleading.
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brwneyedgrl1
I enjoy reading comments on this forum but i dont usually post...I had to this time, though, because the topic really struck a chord w/ me
stef,
I understand what you're dealing w/ completely...trust me...ive been there. I met a JW while i was in HS and i too thought he was the sweetest and most amazing guy id ever met. we started dating after we graduated and then off and on after i left for college. the closer we got though...the more his behavior and attitude changed for the worse...very controlling...very demanding. things really got out of hand the last few months we were together. the final straw was when he told me that he wouldnt even be friends w/ me anymore if i chose not to study his religion w/ someone. I told him that i loved him very much but i just felt like doing so would be a very wrong choice. He has since severed all ties w/ me....wont answer my calls or reply to my emails. Im not saying that your guy would do that, but i just wanted you to know what my experience w/ a JW has been like. It's a lot of heartache that i'm still dealing w/. If you'd like to talk w/ someone...feel free to email me...id love to talk w/ you.
~brwneyedgrl1
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yard dog
Stef Before you judge him one way or the other be frank and ask him these questions: How long have you been associated with JW's? Are you baptized? Do you believe it is the true religion? If we were to embark on a serios relationship would you make love to me or would we have to marry first? Ask him all the questions you have asked us and let him know that you have no interest in converting if that's what he has in mind. The reason I say this is that I was once an 18 year old male who was raised as a witness but quite honestly never wanted to convert anyone and didn't have a problem with sex if the circumstances were right. This young man could be a religious foamer or a good guy without any religious intentions at all but to find out you will have to talk to him openly and honestly then make a descision based on that. I will say be careful and tread lightly but don't stereotype and be real.
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funkyderek
JW's are like no other religion on this planet
I disagree. They're a lot like Mormons, Scientolgists, Moonies etc....
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bikerchic
Steph I hope you really take the good advise given here. You are young and have a lot to learn about life and relationships. My best advise is to stay true to yourself, which when it comes to picking out a mate means pick someone who shares your fundamental beliefs. You cannot change another person to suit you nor would you want to make such a change yourself.
Best regards and BTW welcome to the board. I think you are very smart to look to the sorce for your answers this was a good place for you to find them.
Katie