I would tell my husband -I am not feeling good( because that is not a lie-they say when we doubt we are bad) Stay in your bedroom -the advice about writing a DA letter could be the end of your marriage. I have not read all of the suggestions. but I feel this is going to be a real hard test for you.
If your marriage is not what you really want !!!!the DA thing is good-but if you love your hubby- be very careful-you could lose him,Unless you want to come clean with hubby & tell him you have many doubts about the Borg...my 2 cents