I know what you mean, on the face of it, it sounds absurd but that's mainly because the details haven't been fleshed out. It really isn't about hand-holding and decrying what a horrible life an offender has led; it's quite detailed and intense and offenders are not let off the hook, so to speak. In fact, what draws me to it the most is the amount of power and control that is given back to the victims, which IMO is a very healing thing.
Simon,
here's a link to an article that I had to read for a class last semester. Again, this does not provide many details but it's an intriguing approach to an issue society isn't currently dealing with effectively.
I agree. That's one of the things that I find so hypocritical of the WTS's stance on this issue. How many times did we read in the literature and hear from the platform about our "responsibility" to our fellow man (preach, or you'll be bloodguilty), to our "brothers and sisters" (if you know they've done something wrong, you have an OBLIGATION to "get help" for them from the elders, else you'll be bloodguilty), and especially to Jehovah (don't wanna piss off the big guy, else you'll die at armageddon!). And yet protecting innocent children from monsters the elders know about becomes solely the parents' responsibility, when often they have no clue who the molestors are. Sickening.
I hope what I wrote did not upset you. In no way did I intend to cause you distress. I heard you expressing feelings regarding a friend who also happened to commit a crime. I did not hear you condone his actions. I am sorry for what you're feeling. I had a friend of mine who was fired from his job for having child porn on his computer. It does create mixed feelings and it is confusing. I should have acknowledged your feelings before launching into my own little narcisstic diatribe and for that I do apologize.
Personally I think if the Circle of Trust (or whatever it's called) really does cut down on even one pedophile, it's worth the time and money. I would rather my tax dollars go for that than a $600 hammer for the Pentagon.
What you wrote did not upset me. Child molesters upset me. The news about more JW molesters upsets me. I agree with you that both the abuser and the enabler(s) are to blame, perhaps equally. I just feel so sorry for the latest children reported in the news. Apparently in this case in Mass. the molester is loved and cared about by people. It's too bad they don't love the victim to at least the same degree. The victim becomes a hated enemy. That's such a shame.
This last Spring my son was very ill with a tonsular abscess they told me there was only a 30% chance of it reaccuring I was horrified, knowing he was going into the Marines the "What ifs" ran through my head. Well two weeks later ta da poor kid was back in the hospital the doctor was shocked was I...NO..I mean there was ONLY a 70% chance and for me folks just not good enough.
I wish I could be as willing to "try" as Swan I don't forgive anyone that hurts a child, period and the chances of a molester doing it again is to much if it's only 1%.
Here in KC a Pastor and his wife are being charged with murder because they bound and gagged there 7 year old adopted son on Sunday night they took him to the hospital sometime Monday I believe he had been dead for awhile. Abuse is abuse but his parishoneers are standing outside the friggin church shouting they believe in there pastor, I do to I believe there cruel heartless people that should spend every waking moment in prison (since our country poo poohs death). Their other three children "showed signs of abuse". This is an instance of child abuse that can be SEEN the molester abuses and destroys the heart and soul of an INNOCENT CHILD I find that too dispicable for words.
I DO NOT FORGIVE anyone that can do that EVER and WHOA to the abuser that touches one of my family or anyone I know. I always told my kids that is the one thing that would make me kill somebody and I would be willing to go to jail for life to protect the children that would come after.
I got little, if any sympathy for child molesters, and I don't give a damn if they were molested themselves as kids. If they were, and they know what it's like to have something horrifying like that done to you, then why in hell would they purposely go and do this to yet another innocent child.
Molesters can be very charming and nice to the public for sure. But that doesn't mean that they actually ARE nice people: it's just a cover so that people don't find out what kind of sick, twisted bastards they really are.
I say all child molesters should be castrated - and then fed to gators or crocs...........
Personally I think if the Circle of Trust (or whatever it's called) really does cut down on even one pedophile, it's worth the time and money. I would rather my tax dollars go for that than a $600 hammer for the Pentagon.
This is just a feel good cop out, if you want to truley prevent re-offenses, then lock them away for life, or execute them. Let the punishment fit the crime, the victim will have to live the rest of they're lives with this, then why isn't it fair to make the molester deal with it for the rest of they're life. I think this is worse than death, because of that, and that's why I think they should be put to death. Saying the stastics are real, that would be 3 out of 10 Pedophiles that would re-offend, that is un-acceptable to me, since you would never know which one of the 10 would re-offend. You people that want to go light on them, do you want them living next door to you? If not, then your a hypocrit. The only 100% sure way of preventing re-offenses is to make the punishment more justified, like life in prison, or even death (my pick).
